It has nothing for you!~Sandra Yancey: Founder E-Women Network
My journey of forgiveness
My husband, Richard, and I spent this past weekend cleaning out our safe and file cabinets. I must admit that I have been dreading this!
I have been in business for myself since 2004 and have kept ALL of my receipts! Yep…that’s right! It’s 2018 now and my file cabinets were bursting at the seams!
In addition to business receipts, I’m a sucker for personal memorabilia!
So, as Richard fired up the chiminea in the back yard, I started purging, while he proceeded to do the burning.
It snowed ashes in our back yard, while the gentle snow kept on falling!
In the last hours of burning with my husbands hair filled with snow and ashes, I came across a more recent letter from the Delaware Department of Justice.
It was the final correspondence that finalized the pardon of the teacher who sexually abused me from about age 12-18 years old.
In the Spring of 2017 (exactly 1 year prior to the pardon), I was notified by the Victim Services Department from the Department of Justice, that my former teacher was requesting a pardon for the Sexual Abuse felonies he committed decades ago.
Bare in mind that after I came forward at the age of 23 years old, 3 other women did too.
Unfortunately, my case was the only one that had enough evidence for conviction.
This case went to the supreme court and challenged and extended Delaware’s laws around the statue of limitations.
In the spring of 2017, I was offered the opportunity to attend the public hearing or write a “victim statement” to be read on my behalf.
Even the term “victim” triggered me and a whole ocean of feelings and turmoil arose again for me to heal, even though I thought I was done with healing. (more on that another time)
I did end up writing that statement in the Spring of 2017, so that my story still had a voice.
I want YOU to have a voice too!
Here is why this is important to you.
If the PAST calls…HANG the #$@! up! It has NOTHING for you!
What I mean is that that letter has no business being in my life.
I guess I’ve kept it for the last 6 months because when I would read it, I would get fired up, angry and passionate about taking a stand for women and helping them to find their voices.
Of course it made me ill to even look at the envelope, but I thought I needed it to keep my passion strong for helping women rise in their power.
It has taken me a few days of hanging out in my pj’s, processing my emotions and finally talking to my sister and dear friend today to realize that…
there is NOTHING GOOD coming out of the ANGER I have carried towards the pardoning of this man and the governor who granted the pardon, despite the board of directors voting in my favor.
So, after a powerful forgiveness exercise today, out in nature, with the sun on my face and God granting me GRACE…
I released and forgave these men.
For ME and YOU…I choose PEACE…
I no longer need the anger to fuel my flame!
So, I have decided to choose forgiveness and I’ll burn that letter too, but I need your help.
I truly believe that we must all Forgive if we are meant to live our BEST lives.
So, it’s time for me to burn this letter, and finally heal from my past.
This is where you come in.
Who do you need to forgive?
What do you need to let go of?
What emotions or memories keep you held in bondage?
If not NOW then WHEN?
It’s our time ladies!
This is why I am cordially inviting you to join me on the
Full Moon Forgiveness Fire Ceremony
Where: Facebook Live: Register Here
Wednesday October 24th 5PM MST
where I will burn this letter on Facebook Live and you too will burn your letter and finally release it back to where it came from.
My story does NOT define me and neither does YOURS.
You are no longer ALONE and we as sisters will gather in sisterhood and burn up our PAST.
All you need to do is to write a letter to someone you need to forgive. Maybe it’s yourself!
We will allow these letters of forgiveness or letters of grief or whatever you no longer need from your past to return to where they came from.
You have less than 1 week to find your letter or write one, so that you can stand in your power and be set free!
For the rise of YOU
For the rise of ME
For the rise of SHE~Rebecca Campbell: Light Is The New Black
We are on this journey together dear sisters! I am a stand for you!
Let’s HANG up the calls from the PAST and set ourselves FREE!
I am honored to be on this journey with you
Feel free to share with us in the comments below who or what you will be releasing!
Please forward this to your friends and let’s rise sisters!
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Herpes Diet: Managing Herpes Symptoms With Fall Veggies By Contributing Author Stephanie
As those of us who have read Dr. Kelly’s Book Live, Love & Thrive with Herpes know, diet can have a huge affect on how our bodies experience the herpes virus. Whether it’s the balance between lysine and arginine in our bodies, or simply eating well to support our immunity, it is important to actively support our bodies through our diet. This is a key to managing our herpes symptoms. In this blog, I will go over some of the fall vegetables you can eat to support your body in suppressing future herpes outbreaks. I strongly suggest referring back to Dr. Kelly’s previous blog on lysine and arginine for reference, as it explains how and why lysine is helpful in preventing outbreaks and arginine can be a trigger for outbreaks.
Root vegetables and squash are common fall vegetables that are delicious and nutritious for our bodies! Most vegetables have fairly high amounts of lysine. Did you know that wheat and other grains contain high levels of arginine? This is why it is not uncommon for people diagnosed with herpes to go gluten free. If we can replace our grains (which contain high levels of arginine) with vegetables high in complex carbs, our bodies will likely thank us. Of course this is a personal choice, but if you suffer from constant outbreaks, you can always test out this method to see if it helps you!
Some fall vegetables I love that are either higher in lysine than arginine or about equal in amounts of the two according to the sources I have researched are: beets, turnips, select squashes, and potatoes (white and sweet).
A great way to get the most out of these delicious fall foods is to pair them with foods we know are very high in lysine. One amazing recipe that comes to mind is roasted beets with goat cheese. If you have never tried roasted red beets with goat cheese, I suggest you do so soon. If your recipe calls for nuts, you should omit them, since nuts are another known herpes trigger.
Another great and super easy recipe is roasted acorn squash filled with yogurt. Yogurts containing probiotics in the form of live cultures can also help boost our immunity to better manage herpes symptoms (assuming you are not dairy free). If this is the case, there are dairy free yogurts made with coconut milk. High levels of probiotics and lysine in this meal, or dessert, make it an excellent and healthy choice for the season. Since sugar affects the body in a way that prevents us from fighting off viruses, it is important to minimize our intake of sugar to prevent future outbreaks. This is one of many delicious squash recipes that can easily double as a sweet dessert.
One last recipe that incorporates fall veggies with other foods containing high amounts of lysine is this Italian fagioli soup recipe. This recipe is great for those cold and busy months and is packed with root veggies and squash. The ground turkey is a great addition, as turkey is one meat in particular that is very high amounts in lysine. You will even get some lysine from the parmesan cheese on top! I urge you all to take a look at some of the different recipes you can try to incorporate some of the seasonal vegetables into your diet throughout these colder months.
Keeping veggies in our diet consistently is so important for our health, regardless of living with herpes or not; but of course if we can decrease our herpes symptoms at the same time, why wouldn’t we do it?
Make sure to check out Dr. Kelly’s book to learn more about how diet and supplements can support your body as you learn to navigate your herpes symptoms!
Did you know that herpes symptoms in women can be confused with many common conditions? 85% of people with herpes don’t know they have it! Common symptoms include blisters, sores, itchy areas, tingling, burning, painful urination, skin fissures and cracks, skin ulcers, swollen lymph nodes, fatigue, depression, pain down the leg, flu like symptoms, body aches and watery vaginal discharge; but how do you know if it is herpes? I have worked with women who were misdiagnosed with several other ailments before they were ever PROPERLY diagnosed with herpes.
Why does this happen?
Herpes is truly the Great Masquerader. Doctors and patients alike misdiagnose herpes all the time. Here is a chart of what women with herpes think they have and what men with herpes think they have.
What Women With Herpes Think They Have
What Men With Herpes Think They Have
Urinary Tract Infection
Insect or Spider Bite
Allergy to condoms, spermicides, sperm, elastic/pantyhose
Allergies to condoms
Irritation from bike seat, shaving, douching
Irritation from bike seat, tight jeans, sexual intercourse
As you can see, it would be very easy to misdiagnosis herpes in women AND men. So, if you have any or many of these symptoms, especially if they are reoccurring, I suggest that you seek medical advice. You have to take control of your health and sometimes it means challenging your doctor’s diagnosis. There have been times when I have encouraged women to demand a herpes blood test. Not knowing can drive you crazy! A simple blood test paired with a thorough exam can determine your herpes status. You can find a herpes testing center near you. I also recommend getting screened for other STI’s.
If you end up testing positive for herpes, Pink Tent (TM) is here it support you. We are committed to educate, empower and inspire women with herpes to live, love and thrive. If you reside in the Boulder/Denver area, check our www.ColoradoHFriends.com. We host monthly discussion groups, social events and women’s brunches. Take a stand for your health and get tested!