***How To Get Your Needs Met: Even If Men Are From Mars***
In the past several months, I have been studying men and how they best respond to women. I feel so blessed to be married to Richard Schuh who meets my needs in the most unbelievable ways. (We just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary this past week, camping in the mountains of Colorado)
As a transformational coach for women, most of the women I work with are struggling to get their needs met by the men in their lives. They complain that these men don’t care, are lazy, not attuned to detail etc.
Ladies…men are from MARS…but you don’t need to learn martian to better communicate with them.
If you are not getting your needs met, you must be willing to take 50% of the responsibility. You see, our brains are TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
Bathing in Testosterone…men are Singular Focussed vs women who’s brains bathe in Estrogen causing them to have Diffuse Awareness.
As explained in the video, this is a GOOD thing!
The KEY to getting your NEEDS met is to understand our differences and to be able to communicate more clearly in our requests as described in this video.
If you are needing some more support to better your relationships with men, book a complementary Irresistible You Coaching Session with me at www.meetme.so/drkelly
It’s been almost 10 years since Richard and I said “I DO” on a beautiful rainy day in Boulder, CO.
In celebration of this journey together, we have decided to share 10 Tips To Thriving In Partnership. We feel so blessed to have found one another, but meeting your Soulmate is not enough to create lasting joy.
What does it take to fall in love and stay in love?
Single and married friends alike have commented over the years how much “we work” and how in love we still seem after nearly a decade. We are spending a week camping in the mountains of the Fraser valley celebrating our partnership and the family we have created.
In this #TransformationalTuesday conversation, we will share our Top 10 tips that can be used to create any thriving and joyful partnership.
Feeling hopeless about dating and wondering whether you will be single forever? Let’s unleash the Goddess Within and return you to the truth of who you really are. Become an Irresistible You! Yes Please!
Growing up in a family of strong women, I have always been interested in women’s empowerment. But, just in the past few weeks, I have been investigating emasculation. It is the other side of the coin which I have not really been very sympathetic towards.
It all stemmed from an argument I had with my husband several weeks ago when he was feeling unseen and under-appreciated. It hurt me so much to see how true this was for him. At the time, I was in a state of overwhelm with work and admittedly had not been emotionally as engaged with him as normal.
So, like the personal growth junkie I am, I took total, 100% responsibility for the part I played in this. I also spent some time becoming more aware of how I and the society around us emasculates men. Becoming conscious is truly the first step to be able to make any kind of change.
The first thing I noticed in my own house is how we would make fun of boys being boys and how “icky” they are. (Mind you, these were conversations with my 8 year old daughter). What seems so innocent at first, when you are more aware you notice how frequent such comments are being made, even by men. The first thing I did was to bring this to my husbands attention and shortly there after I overheard him talking to my daughter and letting her know that boys are awesome too! It was as if he took pride in it and took personal responsibility for a more global problem.
If men and women are to co exist, we need to find a place of true partnership. Men and Women are very different and we should seek to understand and celebrate our uniqueness.
I have also realized in the past few weeks that I don’t really understand men and I am wanting to open up more space in my heart for them. It’s as if I love the main male figures in my life, mainly my husband, father, and great grandfather and yet I inherently know that we are wired differently and I often don’t understand how they think or act.
I am committed to learning more about men so that I can connect with them more deeply. Isn’t it funny how this guidance is coming through a week before Father’s day.
So, my challenge for you is to notice where you emasculate men and automatically rob them of their strengths and greatness. I am shocked at how much I do this based on so much conditioning from my family and environment.
If I want to be the most empowered woman, then I must take a stand for men being the most empowered men. We truly do need one another and we all need to be loved, heard and seen.
So, what’s the secret to having a man treat you like a queen? I was pondering this in the shower this afternoon and it really does come down to just ONE thing! It is this ONE thing that makes all the difference. It’s the difference between attracting a man who treats you like crap to one that would bring you and all your friends chocolate bars on a girls night out dinner date “just because”. With my hair wet, I jumped out of the shower and knew I couldn’t withhold this secret any more to my community of women. Today was the day to share this little secret that I had to learn to attract my Prince. Believe me when I share with you that I didn’t always have a man like this in my life. I have had my share of men who were narcissists and the manipulative/ possessive types. I am so grateful to say that some of my absolute best friends have now learned how to be treated like a Queen following this one secret. They say you have to kiss alot of frogs, but if you follow my advice in the video, you will be set off on the right foot to your being treated like the Goddess you truly are. #transformationaltuesday #pinktent #dating #selfworth #loveyourself #treatmelikeaqueen #ownyourworth #selflove #drkelly #vibrationalmatch #queentreatment
We are all starving for love and connection and yet we have forgotten how to get these basic human needs met. Think about it. When someone asks you how you are doing, how often do you respond with something negative or really shallow? Negativity breeds more negativity and before you know it you WILL be depressed if you weren’t before. I challenge you this week with the rubber band test. If you find yourself connecting through negativity, STOP and pull a rubber band hard on your wrist and then shift your focus to something positive. Look for what’s right in your world. There HAS to be something if you look hard enough. I also encourage you to really stop and listen to those who you speak with. Be present. Really engage with them. We are living in a world that is crying for connection. BE that person to connect with and before you know it your heart will burst open and you will feel more love and connection.
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Are you a woman with herpes who feels all alone? Depressed? Unworthy of love? Did you know April is STD awareness month? While there is no cure for herpes, there IS community. So many women out there are just waiting for a cure so they can return to happiness. This line of thinking puts your whole life on hold. The truth is, they may or may not find a cure for herpes in your lifetime. There is another way to access HAPPINESS and I will be talking about that today. You are NOT a victim! I see you and know that you deserve love and happiness NOW. Not tomorrow, or a week from now, several months from now or years from now…but NOW. Time is precious! Listen in on today’s #TransformationalTuesday conversation. This is a conversation and quick tip that you don’t want to miss. Want to fast track your healing and happiness? Join our FREE community of women supporting women with std’s and sexual abuse at www.PinkTent.com/forum
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How do you know if you are ready to date again? Let’s face it, dating is hard enough as it is and many women struggle to know when it’s time.
Whether you just broke up with someone or you have been single for years, there are things to consider before putting yourself out there. Today I am going to share some key distinctions that help you determine if you are ready or not. If you jump in too soon, you run the risk of dating the same guy or girl over and over again that doesn’t meet your standards. It is no fun to keep on attracting and dating Mr or Ms. Wrong instead of Mr. or Ms. Right. Have you ever watched the movie Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts? There is a key take away from this movie that will help you discover if you are ready to date nor not. #datingwithconfidence #drkelly #pinktent #dateyourselffirst #youdoyou #runawaybride #singleandsad #juliaroberts #transformationaltuesday
How do you Spring Clean for Soul Connections?
I remember what it was like balling my eyes out to my mother when I was single and really thought something was wrong with me. At 34 years old, all my friends were getting married and having kids. I was really starting to feel like the 3rd wheel with partnered up friends. I was on Match.com at the time and I would have said that it was more like match.bomb! I thought that my expectations were too high…and yet there was so much more. My Mom advised me to keep going and keep my head high. She told me to have FAITH. Today I would like to share an exercise that I use with my clients to help clear emotional baggage that causes us so much suffering. What is the dating crisis you are really experiencing that causes you to
-Keep attracting the same unhealthy relationship again and again
-Wonder why you procrastinate getting on dating apps
-Lose confidence in the HOPE of finding your Partner…your Happily Ever After
then join me in today’s powerful #transformationalTuesday exercise that can be done in just 5-10 minutes
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Do you tend to attract men who are emotionally unavailable? Do they fear commitment? Do you yearn for love? This past week I was pondering how I got such a great catch. Believe me when I tell you that women watch how my husband treats me and they wonder if they will ever find their man. March 9th marked the anniversary of when my husband and I first met, so I have been investigating how I did it. How did I attract such a fantastic husband and father? Learn how in today’s #TransformationalTuesday #findyourmate #happilyeverafter #matchmadeinheaven #powerofcommitment Book your Irresistable You Coaching session at www.PinkTent.com.coaching