Spreading Herpes To Children-Taryn

Spreading Herpes To Children?: I don’t know where to start. I feel like I’ve been swallowed into a black hole since my diagnosis. I have a 14 month old and a 4 month old. During both pregnancies I suffered UTI’s, Vaginitis, and yeast infections. The baby was born at 33 weeks due to ruptured membranes from an unknown infection. My mind has been racing wondering if all of my issues were due to herpes that I didn’t know I had. I’ve been faithfully with the same partner/ husband for 3 years. All the times I was checked for STD’s I had absolutely no idea that tests for herpes was not done unless requested. Why was I not informed? I’ve never been promiscuous and always thought I was safe. Yearly pap and STD testing, using protection and now this! I feel dirty and ashamed. My husband tries to be supportive but I just want to hide away. Herpes has consumed my every thought, my hands are raw from washing them, I’ve gone through more bleach in the past few weeks than I normally do in a year and I’m afraid to kiss my boys. My stomach hurts from the Valtrex. The sores ( this is the first time I’ve had them) are healing but my body tingles almost painfully in odd spots all over my body. From mid buttock on both sides down to my toes is sore and tight, almost like the muscles are too short. I have read more on the Internet than I ever cared too. Comparing pictures of sore and blisters to mine, others symptoms to mine. Yet I am at such a complete loss. How will I know if an outbreak is coming? How dangerous is this for my children? What if I spread it to them already because I didn’t know I had it? How do I keep outbreaks from occurring?

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  1. Dr. Kelly says:

    Taryn,
    I can only imagine how scary it must be to have been just diagnosed with herpes and no one to turn to get answers. The internet can be overwhelming with inaccurate information! Without knowing more about your history, it is really hard to determine if your complications were due to herpes. Your primary care doctor would be the best person to help you to answer that question. As far as future outbreaks, each woman is different. Most women have prodromal symptoms before an outbreak occurs. This could be tingling, itching, burning, redness etc, which normally occurs in the same location. When this happens, you can be proactive and start focussing on strengthening your immunity, decreasing your stress, and taking either antiviral medication or natural remedies. Once you learn what your triggers are (food, stress, extremes in temperatures etc.) then this will also help you to better manage your outbreaks. As far the transmission of herpes, you don’t need to be bleaching everything you touch or washing your hands several times a day. Herpes is spread through skin to skin contact at the site of your outbreaks. If you get cold sores, then your only precaution with your children would be not to kiss them when you have a cold sore. If you have genital herpes, then just wash your hands after you touch a sore. Most children are exposed to herpes at a young age from family members and friends kissing them with a cold sore. So, once you know you have herpes, the chance of your children getting it from you is much less because you know how to prevent its transmission. The herpes virus is not a very viable virus outside of the body and it dies pretty quickly on surfaces. So, take a deep breath and relax. I encourage you to read my book or take my new online course to get the best, most up to date information for women with herpes.

    Live. Love. Thrive.
    Dr. Kelly

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