Herpes Forum: Worldwide Support For Women With Herpes


Herpes Forum: Worldwide Support For Women With Herpes

Just two weeks ago we opened up our Beta Herpes Forum for a handful of women from our founder’s circle. I was so excited to get the conversations rolling! Within a few days, it was clear to us that the platform we built it on would not work for us. I took it in stride and went back to the drawing board. There have been so many times in this Pink Tent journey that I could have easily given up, but I haven’t and I won’t. I am committed to providing women living with herpes the support they need. Now, fast forward to this weekend.

On Friday morning, I packed up my bags and headed out to Shoshoni Retreat center for a morning yoga and meditation class. I had never been there before and for some reason, I thought it was in Nederland and not in Rollingsville; 13 miles further up the road. I had left myself plenty of time to get there, but with my husband not able to find the car keys right before I left and an extra 13 miles, I arrived for a 10AM class a few minutes late.

With paperwork still to sign, I opted to walk in during the break after the meditation and settle into the beauty that surrounded me. Once again, I opted to surrender to the journey. For there are things that we can control, and things that we can’t. The choice to surrender to those things we cannot change is a powerful practice!

After class, I met with a yoga instructor and woman who is part of our Pink Tent community. She shared with me her vision of creating a retreat for women within our community. I couldn’t believe my ears as she described exactly what I have always envisioned for the women of Pink Tent. After our lunch together, I hiked to the Buddha Rocks she had described to me. The dirt path through the thick green forest was almost surreal. The smell of pine was intoxicating and the profound silence held me in wonder. What would these buddha rocks look like? How much farther did I need to go? Would I find the blue trail as it split from the red trail?

As I walked, I contemplated my visions for Pink Tent herpes forum and felt as if I was walking into a metaphor for what I wanted to create. In the thickness of the wood, there was clearly one path that others had walked. As long as I followed it and looked for the signs, I would arrive at my destination. If not, I could easily get lost. “Am I there yet?” I asked myself several times.

When I finally arrived, I was in awe of the Buddha and the other painted deities. Smaller rocks stacked precariously on top of one another were placed at the feet of buddha. As the noon day sun shone down on me on that rocky escarpment, I carefully chose a pink rock, said my prayer and placed it at Buddha’s feet.

Living with herpes can certainly be challenging. There are times that you will feel lost in the forest and wonder how you strayed off your path. Maybe you started self medicating with alcohol, food, or drugs once you were diagnosed. Maybe you stayed in an unhealthy relationship too long because of the fear of rejection or guilt. Maybe your swore off dating for the fear of having to disclose your status.

My vision is that Pink Tent forum will be an oasis for women with herpes who need support. You no longer need to walk this walk alone. There are so many woman who have been where you are and know exactly what you are going through. They can help you to get back on your path. Allow the Pink Tent women who have come before you share with you their secrets and stories of inspirations. This will be a private forum, for women ONLY. No longer will you need to worry about your herpes status getting out on the internet. Unlike Facebook, we will not be constantly changing our privacy settings. We will be using top notch security so that the content will NOT be searchable by Google or any other search engines.

I know that in order to heal on a deep level, we must be able to share what’s on our hearts and minds in a sacred place. The women of Pink Tent will keep your secrets tucked away. Can you imagine how your life will be touched once we launch Pink Tent forum? I wish I had this 15 years ago when I didn’t know where to turn for answers. We will be launching our beta forum in the next week and will open it up to all of our members in the next few weeks. Stay posted! In the Fall 2013, we will be launching a Foundations Course that will totally transform your relationship with herpes! I can’t wait to release it! If you haven’t done so already, become a member of Pink Tent and get on the path to live, love and thrive!    


  1. sara says:

    So fun to hear about your trip to Shoshoni. I’m getting really excited about the content you have been working on. So many women will be helped and healed by this. Sending much love your way.

    • anita says:

      Hi Katie, I had people who threw up herpes from my past and it hurts me. I trusted a cousellor and shared with him how a man gave me herpes and he was supportive of me. Recently, he moved to another province. When I tried to find a counsellor here in toronto, one gave me dirty look and another locked me out. I thought I could contact my old therapist and call.mThe first thing he says, I remember when you told me that guy who gave you herpes, in a matter of fact comment, with no regard for my sensitivity to his comment. I was very shocked and felt patronized. I let him off the li e. I called him back a few days later and left a message letting him know that he was negative with his comments. What a waste of my trust. I feel not loved. So worried now I. How to tell someone else about my herpes for fear that a person will either through it up in my face in the future or I will get hit. How can feel there is hope after this. By the way, thank god I domhave one male friend to share this with and he doest judge me. I thought I cn reach out to others here who lives with it like me for extra support.

      Have you ever felt this way.


      • anita says:

        I noticed I made some errors in my typing on my tablet. Just new with typing on a tablet. Just have to make sure next time to review and edit my words before it is sent.

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