Happy Anniversary! 7 Years In Love Despite Having Herpes

7 Years In Love Despite Having Herpes


This week I am celebrating my 7th wedding anniversary and I feel like the luckiest woman in the world! I want you to know that it is all still possible for you as well. If you are a woman with herpes, you can still find love and live happily ever after.

If you CHOOSE to love and you BELIEVE in yourself that miracles can happen every day, then it can happen to you as well.
My daughter is getting ready to turn 6, and there’s a story I read to her called Jonathan James and the Whatif Monster. I encourage all of you to read it, because many of you are asking questions like “What if he doesn’t accept me?” or “What if I am rejected?” or “What if I live alone for the rest of my life?”

I challenge you to ask better questions like “What if the man of my dreams is right around the corner?”, “What if I can find love and live happily ever after?” , and “What if I can have the family that I always wanted?”

Choose to believe that you can find the love that you have always wanted, and don’t let having herpes define the brilliant, beautiful woman that you are. Decide to not listen to the Whatif monsters that are holding you back!
Please share your story and let us know how you found love or how you are deciding to not listen to those monsters. You will be celebrating your own anniversary before you know it!



  1. Lioness says:

    Happy Anniversary Dr Kelly – what an inspiration you are! I have started a new relationship and successfully had ‘the talk’. Your encouragement and positive outlook have helped immensely – that inconvenient little virus is not going to stop me from enjoying life and love. So far so good 🙂

  2. nicole says:

    Hi Dr Kelly I’m glad you found love and are very happy but I would like to know if your husband had herpes before you got together, and if not does he have it now? I only ask as I have already accidentally given it to one person (yes all precautions taken) and i could not live with myself if I gave it to someone else… Is it possible to have a relationship with someone who does not have herpes and as long as you are careful and use condoms to not pass it on ever? Or is it best to just get on a dating site and find someone with herpes already… I’m so paranoid now!

    • Dr. Kelly says:

      When my husband and I got together, he did not have herpes (or so he thought). We later discovered (years later) that we think he may have gotten it in college. (I tell all the details in my book about that). It is possible for couples to go without ever passing it to one another. I do need to point out that condoms do not protect a partner at 100%, but they do decrease the chance of transmission.

      I personally dated whomever I wanted to and always disclosed before intimacy. In each and every case, my partners were willing to take the risk and I never passed it onto anyone.

      The dating sites are great if that is where your comfort level is, but I don’t think you need to narrow your dating pool. I hope this helps.
      Live. Love. Thrive.
      Dr. Kelly

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