Margaret

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  • in reply to: Ghosted and feeling small #44825
    Margaret
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    This happened to me once too. The guy I told said he wanted to continue to try things and then just ghosted. It’s been like 2 1/2 years since that happened and after going over it in my head a lot I’ve realized that person just wasn’t ready or willing to take on what being with me would be asking him to. It sucked at first because I was like why would you even say let’s try if you didn’t really mean it? It sucks and I’m sorry it happened to you. My only advice would be to just try and remind yourself that the right people will accept you and stay by your side. So if they’re not willing to stick around, then they’re not for you. Only accept people into your life who 100% accept you. Even with herpes. Keep your head up. I’ve had it for 5 years and I wish I could say it gets easier, but in actuality it’s always going to be hard. You just get better at living with it. Hope this was helpful!

    in reply to: Scared to tell sexual partners about my genital herpes #44824
    Margaret
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    Hi,
    I’ve had it for going on 5 years now and even with the physical pain and the emotional pain, the worst part I’ve found is the fear to tell someone you want to be romantically/sexually involved with. I’ve done it a few times in my years, sometimes it goes really bad and they just are not interested and that’s that. But sometimes it goes really really well. And they will surprise you with their acceptance and understanding. There’s no way to ever tell how a person will take the news once you tell them. But what is so so SO important is that you never lose sight of who you are in the process. Be true to yourself and be honest with your partner the way you would want someone to be honest with you about it. Let them react how they’re going to. You cannot control how people will take it. But you can control how you let rejection and acceptance effect you. Have faith that everything will work out the way it is supposed to. And always remember the right partner for you will accept you no matter what. I am actually starting to see someone too and will most likely have to tell them soon if we continue on the path we’re on. And even after 5 years of this I still get so so nervous of how they will respond. But I’ve accepted myself for me, and if they cannot than they are no longer invited in my life.
    I hope this was helpful! You’ve got this. All things work together for good.

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