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  • in reply to: I’m struggling. Heartbroken, depressed #44744
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    Jeez. I’m so sorry about all of that. Your feelings and emotions are 100% VALID. 3O YEARS?! are you kidding me?! NOT OKAY. at all. Thanks for sharing, I wonder if you guys worked through this..

    And f*ck the guy who did this to me.

    and then left me. and is probably doing this to many other women.

    Fuck him.

    in reply to: Oral Sex #44743
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    Yes, I think kissing should be fine as long as you dont have an OB. I wonder, however about oral sex. I want to give oral. I was told I have HSV1&2. But idk if that includes orally. How can I find out?????\

    in reply to: The problem with infecting without disclosure-stamina #44719
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    I’m sorry they didn’t tell you, or say sorry. I wasn’t told, but I got an apology that was mainly making him out to be the victim.

    Fuck those people.

    in reply to: Waxing/shaving after GHSV1 diagnosis #44685
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    Hi! I was diagnosed with hsv1&2 about a month and a half ago. I have not an outbreak yet, and hopefully never will….!! But anyways I am a super hairy Italian girl and I shave like every other day. I haven’t changed my shaving routine at all since my diagnosis. I’m sure you’ll be fine!

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    I have these same questions. My man like never goes down on me, but I go down on him. I was told I have both HSV1&2 however, I’m not sure if that’s only downstairs or upstairs or both (?). I haven’t had an outbreak yet so idk. I think you definitely can get it or give it to him via oral sex.

    in reply to: Oral Sex #44676
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    Thanks for replying, Rae. So far I got no advice from anyone here lmao.

    in reply to: Positive and negative experiences #44666
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    It is really refreshing to hear a man’s perspective.

    in reply to: Telling a love partner #44665
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    Hi! I am newly diagnosed too. I understand what you are going through. You have to tell him. If it scares him off, he’s definitely not your dream guy and let him go. The guy who gave this to me told me about his herpes AFTER we already had unprotected sex. It feels terrible to be lied to, and I’m sure it didn’t feel great for him to hide it from me either. I know this is hard right now…but your love life will be okay! You will absolutely find someone who loves you for you. Trust me! <3

    in reply to: It’s been a month #44664
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    Wow, I am so sorry you went through all of that. That sounds absolutely awful…I am glad to hear you’re doing a bit better. I’ve been taking this course, journaling *almost* everyday and trying to meditate. I’ve been taking the supplements AND valtrex and I think that’s a positive habit haha. Anyways, hang in there.

    in reply to: Dating is Already Too Complicated…. #44647
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    I am completely new to this and have not have the talk yet. The guy I was/am seeing for the last two months gave it to me and did not have the talk with me initially. He actually told me after we had sex multiple times with and without a condom. I got both HSV1&2 from him. I still had sex with him after this and still like him and am not trying to have sex with anyone else. I’m super nervous to have “the talk”. I also love to have threesomes and I’ve always wanted to have sex with a girl, but now I feel like I can’t do either of those things anymore. So IDK. I don’t got much advice for you, haha, but all your questions are valid & interesting!

    in reply to: New Diagnosis #44646
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    Hi! The shock factor is pretty awful. I’m sorry you are going through this right now. I am exactly 1 month into my diagnosis of HSV1&2. My gyno did not offer support and help at all. She was just like “yep, you have both! bye!!”. I was heartbroken and freaked out for the next 3 weeks. The guy that gave it to me had sex with me without telling me – but then eventually he told me 3 weeks later. But it was already too late. I’m asymptomatic so far and this community has helped me so much already and it’s only been a few weeks. We are here to support you through this. It’s going to be hard, but right now I am really happy. I forgave the guy and am moving on with my life and not letting this control my life. You will get through this! Meditate, write in your journal and do the course! And come here for support 🙂

    in reply to: Sharing my experience and some questions #44645
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    I’m so sorry for all that you are going through. Here for you for support!

    in reply to: Just diagnosed with HSV-1- Looking for support #44630
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    Hi! Thanks for sharing your story. I’m not really sure honestly how to go about this situation. I just got diagnosed with the herp 3 or so weeks ago so this is all still new to me and I am feeling similarly to you. I think the best thing to do is to tell the person before you have sex with them. The guy who gave it to me did not tell me until it was too late. And now I am paying the price. He dumped me like two days ago too :|. Anyways, it must be difficult to think that you gave this to him (even though it could be unknowingly). Hang in there. I hope someone else on here can help you more than I can! But I’m here to listen.

    in reply to: Hello #44629
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    Welcome! I’m new here too but only 3 or so weeks into my diagnosis. Here to help you 🙂

    in reply to: New here…seeking some advice & support #44622
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    Hi! Wow, I went through a similar situation. However, I haven’t had an outbreak yet and I am 29. But I was and still am afraid and ashamed. It’s been about three weeks since I found out. I don’t have too much advice right now for you, but I am here to chat! We are going through the same thing 🙁

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