I was diagnosed when I was 20, I am now 24. My initial outbreak was bad. I went 4 years without one, even when I was most stressed.
I disclosed to my boyfriend a week ago, telling him I didn’t have an outbreak since my initial & am asymptomatic. He didn’t care at all, and we proceeded to have sex for the first time without condoms, and did it again 2 more times.
I have only had a few sexual partners between when I was diagnosed and him, and never had transmitted.
The past couple days, the skin next to my labia on both sides has been very red & irritated. When I look, i don’t see any blisters or open areas, just raw/redness. It burns slightly but I also wear scrub pants that are kind of tight and walk all day long at work. It’s not really itchy, just occasionally but I usually can be itchy down there sometimes. I am unsure if this is a breakout. My first one was so bad and this is about 5% the pain I experienced in my first one.
I also did shave very quickly in the shower the day before we had sex, using a cheap razor and just soap (no shave cream), so I am unsure if it’s shaving irritation as I can sometimes get that but not this bad.
I don’t know if I should tell him. I know obviously not to have sex until this is gone. I just don’t get how I randomly get a breakout when nothing in my life has changed much other than me having sex much more than I’m used to.