September 4, 2019 at 6:52 pm #39500
Hi guys, I’m taylor and I’m 20 years old and just found out I have genital herpes yesterday. Being in a long term relationship and being faithful made me feel like maybe he cheated but the doctor said it could have been from either of our past partners. I have been very depressed and actually had suicidal thoughts after finding out. I don’t want you to think I am here for a pity party but it’s just nice to let it out especially to people who know what I am going through. I am hoping that the medicine the doctor prescribed will help the breakout but I’m afraid that the emotions will take a while to go away.September 4, 2019 at 10:16 pm #39502Dr. KellyKeymaster
I remember when I was diagnosed at 23 years old and it felt like my whole world was tumbling around me. Know that you will get through this and it is not a journey to be taken alone. If you are having suicidal thoughts, please get immediate help!
Call 800-273-8255 (24/7/365)
Text 273TALK to 839863 (8am-11pm PST daily)
You can text them or call them and they will be there for you any time of day!
I have been working with women with herpes for over a decade. We all are just normal, everyday women that happen to carry a virus. In many ways, it is no different than having the chickenpox virus, which also a herpes virus and lives with you forever. Please don’t let a little virus have power over your life. You can learn to have a totally normal sex life and develop awesome loving partnerships. I highly suggest reading my book where I share what my personal experience was like and how I overcame the symptoms and herpes stigma. If I can, so can you!
Dr. Kelly SchuhSeptember 4, 2019 at 11:21 pm #39504
Thank you so much Dr. Kelly! I have been feeling a lot better mentally about my situation after reading everything on here and talking to my mom about everything!September 4, 2019 at 11:55 pm #39505Dr. KellyKeymaster
Mom’s are the best!!! My mother was one of the first people I told and she was so supportive of me on my journey.September 7, 2019 at 3:32 am #39509ElaineParticipant
hi taylor, im 24 and was diagnosed TODAY. I have been in a wave of feelings all day. At one point accepting of the fact knowing the facts and that at least it is not a continuous health issue I will face. But sad because I AM SOOOO YOUNG. Like another part of the day I just felt like maybe they got the test wrong and sometime they would call me back and tell me it was a mistake. I have been with the same guy since July 2018 and he has sworn that he has only been with me….. which i completely agree. I have some other issues as well (Hidradenitis) which causes bumps to form under the skin which eventually bust and ooze. These pop up on my bikini line and I have been having the issue since a little girl. That along with recurrent BV I haven’t even had sex in a few weeks honestly. I don’t know how this happened. I truly don’t. I feel you completely. My doctor told me it had to have been recent. Sounds like yours said it could’ve been from a past relationship…. How are you and your boyfriend dealing with this? Im heartbroken…September 8, 2019 at 4:29 am #39518
Hi Elaine! I definitely understand what you are going through! The first day I was completely overwhelmed and crying all day. I also felt like it had to be a mistake and that the doctor would tell me they got something mixed up. My boyfriend and I are doing great! He is so supportive and it hasn’t affected our relationship really at all. I was so afraid that he would break up with me but I feel like it brought us closer and really reassured me that he loved me! I definitely think it was from a past relationship! I hope you and your boyfriend can get through it! Communication goes a long way!September 9, 2019 at 8:49 pm #39520Sammy JoParticipant
Well, I never thought i would be in this situation but today i just received the results of my test and the results came back positive for Herpes. I feel a part of me had an idea that i had it after reading online and think it wasn’t just a yeast infection. If i’m being perfectly honest I dont know where i am emotionally yet. is it normal to not know how to react to hearing this kind of news?September 9, 2019 at 11:51 pm #39521ElaineParticipant
Sammy jo, I think that’s normal. It’s been maybe 3 or 4 days now for me. And some days or hours I’m fine. Then I’m breaking down crying and sobbing. I’ve been all over the place. As a nurse, I feel that helps me understand the science behind it and that it’s really a minute thing. But at the end of the day I’m so young and regardless, to know you have a life long infection is devastating. I’m planning to go to a counselor soon. I’ve been wanting to call off work everyday and just have isolated myself from the world.
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