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I’m new here and was looking for advice I guess…
About 3 weeks ago my longtime boyfriend of 5 years had proposed to me. We were in the middle of trying to figure out a lot of stress, financially, family work, etc. And he told me he had some weird mark on his penis. He went to the doctor and got all the testing, and everything came back negative. I saw his patient portal and I was very supportive and helpful during this week or so of us trying to figure this all out. He then gets a call from the clinic over a week later saying that he was hsv2 positive. He’s never had any outbreak or any other std in his life. We were both devastated. So I finally get into my doctor and get tested and I’m obviously positive too… I know he’s not messed around on me except the very beginning of our relationship with his crazy ex baby momma. But that was years ago and we’ve moved past it. He’s coping pretty well somehow. I guess knowing that I’m not going anywhere is all he needs. And I’m not handling it well at all. I don’t look at him any different, and neither does he to me. But I’m disgusted and beating myself up pretty bad. I feel gross and my self esteem is destroyed. He’s being very supportive and all that, but idk how to cope and deal with this I guess. I don’t want to be depressed and hate myself. All other advice is for singles and I’m in a committed relationship and have no one else to talk to about this other than my fiance.
Hey, I also just found out. I’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 4 years. I too feel like I want to crawl out of my skin. It’s extremely difficult to process but I will say that it is good that both of you are being supportive and kind to eachother. I’ve been referred to therapy and this site and it has helped me alot. Keep reading. I’ve gone in and out of articles and forums and the more educated on it you are the better you’re going to feel. I’m trying my best today is day 2 after my diagnosis. In my opinion atleast you and your partner have eachother. Be kind to yourself. I’d love to share my story with you if it’s going to help.
Thank you for your kind words. You can share if you’re up to it. I’m on day 6 now and I’m trying to just not think of it I guess. I need to look into therapy again I think. I haven’t told any friends or family, not like I have much of either and not going to. Idk what else to do. I’m sorry about you as well. Day 2 was hard and I still feel sick to my stomach..
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