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Topic: Hi, Im new here
Hello my sisters. I already feel like part of the family. I am 70 years old and was diagnosed with 2 back in 2014. I had been married for 13 years at that point. I was horrified of course. Blaming myself and going through all the unhealthy thoughts we have all experienced. My husband was never worried about the diagnosis. I don’t believe he over became infected, at least no symptoms, He passed away almost 2 years ago. Now, I am back dating. I met a very nice fellow and have enjoyed several dates with him over the last 3 months. We both have a strong Christian faith and have not had sexual intercourse up to this point. I do feel our relationship is progressing and it may soon be time to have “The Talk”. I have been reading Dr. Kelly’s book as well as “The Good News About the Bad News” in preparation for this day. I have read conflicting information about kissing and transmission of HSV2. This has me mortified because this relationship involves a lot of kissing. So many articles talk about kissing being one of the means of transmission. Then, I’ve read in other places HSV2 absolutely does not spread from the genitals by kissing. If it is spread by kissing then I probably have infected him. For which I will never forgive myself. Does anyone have any input on this? I’m already concerned about rejection when I tell him about my infection.
Topic: Natural healing from herpes
I think it’s high time I told my story.
So the doctor that diagnosed me of HSV1&2, actually recommended a natural method as a possible remedy for me and actually referred me to a Naturopathic Doctor who is a specialist in herpes. I was pleasantly shocked and grateful that he took that extra step to literally give me all my options and even provide resources. I’ve always hated taking medicine and I’ve been trying to be more aware of what I put into my body. He stated that the specialist had a lot of good information about herbs and natural healing. He spoke very highly of the doctor and claimed that he had worked with him and was very impressed with his research and the results he yielded. So I contacted him and we really discussed at length cos he wasn’t close by. He asked a lot of questions and was very clear that this will only put the virus into a dormant state where I won’t experience any of the herpes symptoms and won’t also pass the virus through sexual intercourse. It’s just like a second chance to live a normal life again. I didn’t really think twice because it looked like the only thing I was at risk of losing is my money and on the bigger scale of things it is definitely one of my lesser concerns, especially when in comparison to my health. So we concluded and he sent me the meds and instructed me on the diet to follow. I did that for 7weeks and that was it.
I have been living my normal life now for over 8years free from outbreaks, pains, sores, I have even been in and out of relationships without passing the virus, hence no need to tell my partners about my HSV if I choose not to.
I finally decided to settle down in my last relationship cos my partner was all I wished for, I later told him about everything which wasn’t an issue to him because after 2years of relationship and we were sexually active, he was still testing negative. Now we have a beautiful daughter. My husband and daughter are not with the virus.
If you haven’t tried or considered natural healing, then I think you should, but not all naturopathic healers can do it, there are specialist amongst them who are very good with herpes.I didn’t know much about herpes, as no one I knew had it. I had not ever been tested for it even though I got tested for other STD’s fairly regularly. My doctor said if I never had symptoms or had a partner who had it, I didn’t need to get tested.
About 7 weeks ago some crazy stuff happened at work and they laid off most of my department without warning. There were only three of us left and suddenly we were doing (and still are) the work of all the others who had been let go. The stress was unexpected and heavy. I couldn’t sleep, I ate terrible foods and I cried all the time. I was in front of the computer way too much and didn’t get regular exercise. I broke out in blisters on my genitals. I had no idea what was going on so I Googled it and decided that I better have a herpes test. Just to rule that out, as my boyfriend didn’t have it and I had never known any of my past boyfriends to have it. Well, the blood test was positive. My world changed right then and there. I told my current boyfriend (9 monthsdating) and he thought he must have had it unknowingly and gave it to me. He had a blood test. Well, his test was negative. I asked my doctor how that could be and he said I could have caught it as many as 20 years ago and never had an outbreak until now. I then remembered someone who I dated in 2003 right after I got divorced. I found his prescription for Valtrex in his bathroom and asked him what the hell he was keeping from me. He swore it was for “lip sores”. We broke up soon after, and then I never got any outbreaks after that so I didn’t think I had it. Well, now I know I do, maybe I have had it all this time and didn’t know, and my boyfriend does NOT, so the world has stopped for us. He won’t kiss me, hold my hand, or of course, have sex with me now. I’m on daily Valtrex but he is very scared of catching it. I don’t have a current outbreak but I still feel like I am u unlovable.Topic: Frustrated
Hello all,
My physician believes I have HSV2. So back story I was married 25 years to a cheating spouse. After the divorce I ran STD, swabs and HIV checks (all negative). Then had a brief partner got tested prior (via urine test). I had some abdominal pain recently and doctor found sores in vaginal area and swabbed and did blood work (negative). Treated with Valtrex and still dealing with symptoms 3 weeks later. We are going to run tests again in a few months. I am scared doctors are missing something and can you have back to back episodes. Any advise would be great.I am newly diagnosed — it is Tuesday and I read the diagnosis on my medical portal on Sunday night. In shock even though doctor who did the swab of my blisters told me it might be herpes. I just thought it was the oral herpes (which I know I have and this hasn’t given me shame) that got “down there” through oral sex or something. But it is genital herpes. Blisters started after I had COVID in April, which I guess is not uncommon, although I may have had other symptoms for a long time (nerve tingling). Husband has no symptoms. He is supportive. We talked (ok, I cried, and he talked). Given our histories before we got together over 30 years ago, it is likely that I was the one who contracted herpes and was basically without symptoms throughout our whole relationship. I feel ashamed about this and really alone. I can’t talk to anyone about it except my husband and I don’t want to burden him with being a basket case. Thanks for listening
Topic: Is it an outbreak?
Hi, I was diagnosed with genital herpes 5 or 6 years ago during my first outbreak. I had one small sore fairly far into my vaginal opening. I haven’t ever had another outbreak. I get paranoid every time I ever feel anything uncomfortable in that area, but as far as I know, I have never had an outbreak. Lucky, I know. However, I don’t really know what it feels like and if I would recognize the symptoms. Recently, I felt some discomfort in the area and had a look. At first, I was sure it was an outbreak by the way it looked (one small white-ish looking spot. not really a blister though). But it was gone in less than 2 days. Is that possible? Sometimes I have tears especially after sex, so I’m not sure if it was just that or if it was an outbreak.
any insight?Topic: Considering daily meds
Hi all. Sorry if this is long, but I’m just going to put it all out here in my first post! I’m 59 years old and have been living with HSV1 for many years. My husband gave me it to me, probably prior to our marriage in 1995. He did not disclose that he got cold sores on his lips (which were easily hidden by his beard/mustache). By the time I actually saw one on him and we had a discussion about it, I’m sure the damage had already been done. He claimed not to realize it was a big deal, since the outbreaks didn’t really bother HIM that much. I was pretty irritated but was 25 at the time and a busy, newly divorced young mother of 2 and guess I just didn’t dwell on it. Fast forward several years, after we were married, and I started to occasionally get “cold sores” on the end of my nose. In the beginning, it only happened once or twice a year and was easy to live with. But as time has gone by, they started to appear more frequently and with more intensity (on both sides of ends of nose), so several years ago I finally went to a doctor and asked for medication. I’d been taking valcyclovir as-needed a couple-few times a year. The pills make me very sick to my stomach and I feel like I’ve had a pot of coffee but they seem to work really well.
Fast forward again to the last couple-few years, and it’s only gotten worse and more intense. Meanwhile, my husband only rarely gets cold sores on his lips anymore, and they are easily hidden. So not fair. Anyway, during my yearly gyno exam last month, my doctor found signs of active HSV2, and after lab work confirmed with me that I do in fact have that also. My husband has never had symptoms of HSV2. I had noticed a small irritation but thought it was brought on by bad fitting pants/excercise, etc. I have had that same irritated feeling a few times over the last many years but it was never enough to concern me. For some reason it just didn’t dawn on me that it could be HSV2. I was also just starting to get a cold sore on my nose when I saw my doctor. Within a couple of days, I had the worst outbreak I ever have. Many other symptoms with it, etc.
So now my doctor has suggested that I start taking my med daily as a preventative measure. I would be fine with that except that I’m sure I would end up with an ulcer. I have an extremely sensitive stomach and can’t deal with most pills. She mentioned that one concern with having bad outbreaks in the nose is that it can lead to the eyes, brain, etc. I was just in shock. By the time I got home, I had thought of more questions for her, and will be having a follow up appt. tomorrow. Questions like: could my eye problems in the last few years be related? Are other symptoms related? Should I see a specialist? I’ve already searched for a local virologist in my med network and found nothing. Should I have my husband take the same med daily too, so we don’t keep passing this back and forth to each other? What are the side effects of taking the med every day? Is there anything besides pills I can take (like a shot, patch, etc.)? Anyway, thanks for making it this far if you have. I’d love to hear from anyone else that may have found themselves in a similar situation. Hugs to all!
