Hey all, I’m new to this forum but I’m beyond thankful to have found a platform where I can talk about my hsv diagnosis. I’ve had a lot of anger since I got diagnosed last year. My boyfriend of three years and I were on a “break” as you would say, where I was trying to find myself again and he slept with other people lol. When we got back together, he didn’t have any symptoms so he wasn’t aware. Once he did get symptoms, he informed me and well there you have it. We broke up about five months ago.
In the last five months a lot has been going on emotion wise. I’m still healing from the breakup but the idea of being with someone new with this diagnoses scares me to death. I’m young, I haven’t even been able to fully get out into the world yet. And then the wave of anger shoots over me. I’m angry at him, at me, and at the world for making my chances of finding someone who loves and accepts me harder than it already was. I hear all the “if a new partner can’t accept the diagnoses he wasn’t the one”, which calms me to a point. But how do you even put yourself out there? How do you tell someone? How do you stop feeling like this is the end of your dating life? And most importantly, how do you stop yourself from being so angry and bitter about it?
The only person that knows is my ex, which I no longer communicate with. So I would greatly appreciate hearing about your stories and how you’ve overcome these difficult times.
Topic: Possible False Positive
Hey guys 6 months ago I was diagnosed with HSV2 I know hsv2 can be asymptomatic it was just very weird to me being that my vagina is crazy sensitive anything can knock off its PH. If i do not pee directly after sex I WILL get an UTI etc, ive also struggled with BV and I know this is a little tmi but a couple years ago I got chlamydia and I had sever pelvic pane and an odor i say all of this because i got rechecked for hsv2 and my igg was 1.36 , which is an EXTREMELY low positive. A low positive so close to the cut off with no symptoms I heard from Terri Washington that has an 85% chance of being a false positive. 6 months after being officially diagnosed and it is 1.36 it just seems off. I am wondering how likely it is that I really do have a false positive and is there anything else out there that can confirm this false positive. and if anyone knows how to go about it
Topic: How to live with betrayal?
I just recently found out I have genital herpes. It first started off with symptoms similar to a yeast infection until I started getting sores and blisters. I was so confused I had been with my partner for almost 9 years there was no way I could have herpes. I confronted him and he finally admitted to having an affair with a prostitute at those happy ending massage places. Now because of his betrayal I have to live with this forever. It’s my first outbreak and the pain is excruciating. I can’t believe I have caught this disease because of him. I trusted him and I never in a million years thought he could do this to me. How am I supposed to live like this? No one in my life knows only him I am terrified to tell anyone. My family are strict Christians they will think I am disgusting. Idk what to do..
Never knew forums such as these existed and I’m so glad I came across this one. I’m 23 years old and recently got out of a toxic relationship with a man. I have been having symptoms following almost 2 months after we started dating and have honestly been in denial about it. I have my appointment with the OBGYN and I’m expecting the worst. Should I have the virus, I would not feel comfortable reaching out to him, as I’m 99.9% positive I contracted it from him. If any of you could provide support or advice, that would be awesome.
Topic: Hsv2 symptoms/disclosure
Hi How long after exposure did you display symptoms? What were your symptoms? Curious to know, I was diagnosed in September of this year. I had flu like symptoms followed by what I thought was BV or yeast infection but instead found out I had Herpes 🙁 my current partner tested negative twice by blood and urine test. Could my ex of 2 yrs had given it to me and I just had my first outbreak? If so would the flu like symptoms appear if this virus had been dormant for that length of time? Any answers/advice would be appreciated. My ex recently reached out and I feel the need to tell him
I had sex with someone who knew they had HSV-2 but did not disclose it to me. This was in Dec-Jan, maybe 3 times we had contact.
I found out and got tested in March. Test came back negative. I heard from my university doctor that I should wait 6 months to test instead of 3 months. So I wait another 6 months just to be safe. (We are in a pandemic anyway ain’t gonna be meeting people.)
This test in late Sept. comes back as “equivocal”. I have HSV-1. I got it when I was a kid. Nurses at UNI doc say its unlikely that I have type 2. I have not had any symptoms (that I have noticed anyway) and its been 9 months. They tell me to get tested again in 2 weeks.
Its Oct. I get tested again. Test comes back as “equivocal” again. Uni doc say I have it. The numbers for detection are 1.09 and I got 1.08.
Every test I got was $100. The first test they had to redo bc it came back that I didn’t have HSV-1.
Should I get retested again? Are student tests accurate? Has anyone had a similar experience? If I get retested, is the western blot worth it?
I also started taking medication called “acyclovir”. Would taking this medication affect my results?
I don’t have health insurance at the moment. I have been going to my university health center bc its cheaper. Any insight would help.
I am 26 just got out of a long term relationship about 6mo ago and have been frequenting tinder since. The dates come very easily, but they all kinda suck. Didn’t know it would be so hard to find someone, but finally I meet this guy and I really like him! So 3 dates in and we’re making out and stops me and says we need to talk. Well I’m sure you can guess he told me he has herpes.
I wish I could have gotten a chance to get to know him more before considering all of this, but either way I am so grateful that he told me. Even if we never have sex, it’s a wake up call to me. I’ve had plenty of unprotected sex with people I shouldn’t have in the past and I sympathize with him.
Been researching everything and still not sure what to do. Seems like if we only had sex a few times with condoms I would probably be fine taking that risk, but that’s not really what I want in a relationship. The main goal is long term, and eventually I’ll want to have sex more and probably not use a condom. Soon enough I would probably end up with the virus.
Seems like the stigma is worse than the symptoms. I don’t wanna be that peice of shit who runs away as soon as I hear, especially because I really like this guy.
For most people, catching herpes is just bad luck. Yes there were things you could have done to prevent it, but let’s be honest, everyone makes mistakes, and it’s not your fault. But if I take this risk, it’s completely my responsibility to deal with any consequences that follow
My biggest fear is things will be good for a few years and then they turn bad and then I’ll feel stuck because now I have herpes and no one else will want me. That’s so dumb, I know there will be people who understand and still think I’m worth it. I want to be one of those people who understands and doesn’t care. But I’m honestly scared to death.
Open to all opinions/ stories just looking for someone to chat with because I’m not so comfortable talking with my friends about this yet. Thanks in advance!
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