Hi guys, I was recently diagnosed with HSV-1 in November 2021. I had a pretty bad first outbreak but got it sorted with meds. However, since then I have had the typical profile sypmtoms a lot and no sign of any blisters/sores. Basically, I get the shooting nerve pain down my legs, tingling down my legs and butt, a lot of vaginal itchiness and lower back pain. A strange thing that happens when I get these symptoms is I get one small red spot that forms on my butt cheek. It’s only one and they look like pimples and don’t blister or itch or hurt. I’m just concerned because why do they appear every time I get these prodome symptoms? Does anyone else get this? Is this a mini-outbreak? Does this mean I’m shedding/contagious all the time? Also, I feel like my nerve pain gets triggered by alcohol, is this common? I’m really nervous because I’m constantly worried if I’m contagious when the nerve pain hits. Or is this all just post-herpatic nerve pain? Will it go away?
I had my first outbreak in November 2020 but was told it was shingles. Two weeks ago the “shingles” came back so I went to Urgent Care so I could get the antiviral medication to help treat it. The doctor said he wanted to test it because he had a feeling it wasn’t shingles. I received the positive HSV2 diagnosis the next morning. I was shocked and devastated. I’ve been with the same man (on and off) for the last 8 years and with no one else for the last 14. I’d had other partners prior to him and I understand that this can lay dormant for years but his behavior regarding getting tested is very suspect. A week after I informed him and suggested he get tested he sent me a text saying he had a full STD panel done and all came back negative. I asked if he asked specifically for Herpes and he said “yes.” I assumed he had tested negative for that as well. A day or so later I found out he didn’t take the antibody test for Herpes. He said his doctor said it was unnecessary because it would be inconclusive. After speaking with my doctor I informed him that there is a specific antibody test that will conclusively test for HSV2. He asked me why it was so important that he take the test and I said so that I could exclude him from the possible source of my infection. He said he would take it. A few days later he sent me a text saying he saw his doctor again and was told it was unnecessary and would not be conclusive. He then said it would only show that he may have had it in the past. That ridiculous statement threw me over the edge. I can’t even tell you how upsetting this whole situation has been for me. I understand that it is possible that I may have had this prior to my relationship with him, although my doctor said it is unlikely, but what is most upsetting is his refusal to get tested. It makes me believe that he knows he will test positive and he doesn’t want to take responsibility for me or anyone else he may transmit to. I’m so devastated by this. Needless to say, this relationship is over because even if he had a negative test at this point, his behavior and the emotional upset it has created in my life is an absolute deal breaker. I am very lucky to have a few close women in my life who have had this diagnosis for many years and are available for outreach when I am in those most distressing moments, but it doesn’t take away the reality that my life is changed forever. I know I will be okay and that this too shall pass, but right now I’m still in the grieving of my previous life when this diagnosis didn’t exist. Sending love to you all.
Topic: how do i deal with rejection
I was diagnosed with HSV-2 back in January. I was on a trip and couldn’t see a doctors for weeks during my first outbreak. It’s been hard because I can’t tell my family about it and my friends try to be supportive but none of them have it so they don’t truly understand and I just feel like I’m talking to a wall because nothing they can say makes me feel better.
I’ve had consistent hookups or fwb situations so I’ve never had to go too long without intimacy before this. The guy I had been hooking up with before that tested negative and stopped talking to me after I got diagnosed. Since then I really haven’t been able to hook up with anyone. I use dating apps and before giving someone my number I tell them my status, but then I just get ghosted. I’ve been rejected more in the last three months than ever before, and it’s made my self esteem go down and I don’t feel confident in myself anymore. I am constantly thinking that guys will never pick me because I have nothing to offer them and they easily could find someone else that doesn’t have herpes. I’m stressed that I will never be able to have a semi normal sex life ever again and that nobody will want to have sex with me or ever date me.
If anyone has any advise on how they got back into having sex after getting diagnosed or how to go about the rejections or just any words of encouragement I’d really appreciate it!
Just finished up my 10 day meds on Sunday, on suppression since yesterday.. this is my first outbreak.. so I’m feeling twinges down there, is it possibly nerve pain or is the out break reoccurring??? Wondering if I should double back up on meds since I have to go out of town tomorrow, and certainly don’t wanna deal with it while I’m gone.. I may call dr after hours to ask but was hoping someone here has had same experiences?
I had a relationship which ended 12 years ago with a guy who had been diagnosed with herpes. He never had an outbreak in the 2 years we were seeing each other. I never had a single outbreak (and assumed i didnt have herpes) until 2 days after i got the covid vaccine 7 months ago. It was a massive outbreak and lasted about 3 weeks. Since then ive had continous outbreaks approx every 2 weeks. Has anyone else found getting vaccinated triggered an initial/increased outbreaks? If so, does it wear off???
Topic: the anxiety is killing me
I tested positive for antibodies ~four years ago. 100% asymptomatic no outbreaks. Completely shut down emotionally and physically until recently. Took a chance and went on a date with a man i’d met online and immediately connected with. On date one we both had way too much to drink and things got physical. I said that I didn’t have any condoms before we had sex. Truth be told it I’d completely forgotten about the HSV2 as I’ve just put it out of my mind and it does not affect my daily life at all. Afterwards when the reality hit me I was (and still am) too ashamed and terrified to say anything. I’ve read every statistic online about the relatively low chances of an asymptomatic woman passing to an uninfected man and am hoping that I didn’t pass it to him and I’ll just use condoms going forward. I know, its immature and irresponsible and eventually I’ll have to fess up, I’ve created and rehearsed a story in my head nonstop for weeks. I’ve only told one person about this situation and their advice was “some secrets you take to the grave”. I like this guy and he likes me. I’ve been wracked with guilt since but things are progressing both emotionally and physically. I don’t want to have this conversation with someone i’ve only known for a short time because its so humiliating, shameful and likely the end of something good and given I’m 52 who knows when or if good company AND good sex will come around again in my life. All of that said, the anxiety is constant and is eating me alive. Tell me I’m not the worst person in the world. Tell me what to do.
So I’m trying to cut certain things out of my life in an effort to reduce or eliminate outbreaks. What did you find that was helpful helpful? I was taking Ritalin for ms fatigue and I’m really sad to stop but I read that stimulant can hurt you immune system. I also quit smoking cigarettes. My sex life is suffering because I’ve had 3 outbreaks back to back and I just want a normal life. Any additional ideas would be helpful if you think it helped you please share.
Also does anyone get a yeast infection evertime they have an outbreak? I keep having a discharge that I assume is a yeast infection, but haven’t gone to the doctors to test to discharge.
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