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[sadkitty18]

Just been diagnosed 3wks ago, initial outbreak in 2018 which when I got tested came back negative??? The angry talk with my now ex at the time he insisted he was clean Dr said he had pimples on his shaft? No symptoms since but mid June I got blisters on my fingers really stung and wouldn’t heal so went to Dr and was given steroid cream as they said it was eczema. 2wks later constipated, burning down there and pain passing urine and bruise like pain down backs if thighs, went to Dr and was given internal exam, urine test and she swabbed me and it came back as hsv2, luckily I’ve not been sexualy active since my ex and I split up in 2020 (lockdown, changed jobs and then had pre cancerous cells removed from cervix). Ive had tingling and burning for around 6wks and waiting on blood results to see if antiviral meds are appropriate. I’m worried sick I feel like this is all consuming for me I feel disgusting and angry because I believe my ex either knew and lied or lied to me about getting tested before we stopped using protection, can’t ever imagine a scenario where I’d be comfortable to disclose this to friends family or a potential partner but I also couldn’t live with myself if I passed it on because I know how it’s making me feel. Here to chat if you want

[sadkitty18]

I’ve just been diagnosed few weeks ago but it’s looking like I was misdiagnosis and have had it since 2018 (3 tests since the outbreak in 2018 were negative, was told it was HPV and pre cancerous cells in cervix and I’ve been HPV negative since July 2020 haven’t been sexualy active since my surgery in January 2020, feel I can’t date because I know I’m too ashamed to tell anyone I have this and I can’t risk passing it onto anyone either.

[sadkitty18]

Just joined today, I’d been seeing this guy for going on 10 months he seemed so open and honest we were making plans for future, moving in, kids etc then I find out he has a girlfriend and I was technically his other woman, stopped seeing him got tested right away all negative no symptoms, started seeing someone else few months later and one night after 1 to many drinks we slept together and he said the condom slipped off because it was too big? Then ghosted me. Went back got tested again all negative by this time I stupidly got back with my ex who had cheated on me, had my first outbreak about 6wks later he denied having anything but wouldn’t get tested, I got tested and told everything was clear but I had thrush which they gave me a pessary for. Fast forward to January 2020 I’m diagnosed with HPV and pre cancerous cells are removed, got the all clear 6 months later and haven’t been sexualy active since. Mid June had pain and stinging but no sign of blisters, Dr diagnosed me with genital herpes few weeks ago and said it’s in my fingers as well. I’ve no idea which 1 of them gave it to me, why it’s taken so long to have an outbreak or why I’ve had 3 negative tests but I feel disgusting really struggling mentally and feel like my dating life is over. I’ve finally met the most lovely guy and he’s asked me out and I’ve totally pushed him away I’m so ashamed to tell him but I don’t want to start anything with him and risk inflecting him too

[Pinklady]

Hi I’m new and have had herpes for about
6 years and still struggle knowing I have this
I feel ashamed to talk to anyone and bottle
my feelings up I had many bad outbreaks
and used antivirals for about a year the doctor
I saw said it must be from my partner I am with
as I got tested a few years before and it was
negative so I’ve kinda blamed him he wasn’t
Phased by it Intimacy stopped as after a few
days I would have any outbreak even underwear
rubbing produced sores I feel like if i ever got with someone else as my relationship now is
friends only that I would be rejected
Once they found out and tell others
about me.

[Pinklady]

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[Woundedwarrior]

Hi, I posted before after 2hrs now of still lying in a bath of salt and not wanting to move I’m trying to find where to start… I don’t know how to manage this or anything about it. Can anyone make recommendations on anything that can help during an outbreak OR for ongoing immune support? Home remedies just ANYTHING at all. I’m honestly willing to try anything.. I can’t cope with this kinda outbreak again.

[Woundedwarrior]

How do we get through the pain of this.. it’s so draining I just cry.. I wasn’t mentally in a good place already and now I can’t even move without wanting to cry. I’m in my first outbreak and I know this is completely chotastrofising BUT the pain I feel at times makes me beleive I can’t do it… I already have depression along with many other shitty things going on.. I feel so low right now. Is there hope for this? I just need to know how to manage this if I can and anything I can do to make it easier because right now this I’d definitely a blow I couldn’t take.. please someone help me understand this better, cope with it better I’m in tears as I write this… I just don’t know

[stephanierice2663]

Update!
So I reached out to the Dr and he sent me the meds last month. I have been taking it since then. It feels ok though. I haven’t experienced any symptoms or outbreaks yet, unlike before that was frequent, so am being optimistic.

[Merilyn]

I know how mortifying the not knowing can be but I was in your shoes exactly about 8 months ago. I had just one sore, it was uncomfortable but not horribly painful so I thought I just cut myself shaving or maybe the laser treatments I was getting. Until I grabbed a mirror and looked closely and I realized it looked like a herpes sore. I also became extremely sick during these days and thought I had a kidney infection or kidney stone bc it would burn and hurt so much when I peed and I also became super sick with fever, chills, nausea & vomiting, lost so much weight and when I saw the sore I went to go get checked with my OB/GYN and my worst fear became reality. I came back positive for HSV-2. The other flu-like symptoms were in response to my first HSV outbreak. So go get checked just in case. It is always better to know so you can properly prevent spreading it or know how to manage it as difficult as it may seem.

[Pichukita]

The only advice I can give is don’t let other people’s opinions of you and your life define you. Lthere is this obgyn on YouTube that I follow and she always says this quote “you do the best you can with the information that you had”. Its not your fault you unintentionally given this virus. The other part about it is it does not define you! Its a skin condition that you have to deal with periodically. And even while you are dealing with an outbreak, you go on about your day and do all the things you need to do. Life doesn’t stop because of this diagnosis. I hope this helps. I definitely am sorry the person you thought you were going to marry didn’t work out but that same feeling can be found again if you are open to it. Nobody in this world is perfect so as you go into the dating world just be honest and upfront with people. This is me and I have this and are you ok with it? If not, Thank you, next!

[Pichukita]

I just recently had a more rough than normal session with my fellow and since then I got anoutbreak. It has definitely been longer lasting and the lesion is bleeding more than I have ever experienced before.:( its really frustrating. Im not sure if its because my skin is thinner or just the location of the lesion keeps rubbing together which is causing the bleeding/slower healing. I’ve been putting tp between to try and avoid further spread and infection. Its miserable and so painful when I urinate. And when I wipe I see bright red like fresh blood. Its been a few days so I’m hoping it will get better soon. I didnt take the antivirals but I might start if it doesn’t go away soon. I do think its because of the rougher than normal sex. My guy has hsv2 (he gave it to me) so we don’t use condoms. We use lube but maybe we didn’t use enough. Idk but I was happy to see this post since I’ve never had bleeding before with my outbreaks so maybe I was just because of the sex.

[Leah]

Hi everyone I’m newly diagnosed with herpes. Im just trying to figure out my triggers and if I’m having a break out or what could possibly be going on down there?? Any advice

[Kaliyan]

Hi! I just turned forty and also having my first outbreak. I’m not sure how I’ll ever be ok with sex again and my partner of six years and I always enjoyed our intimate time together. (Coconut oil is awesome I agree). Unfortunately we don’t know where it comes from for me. Once my test results come back, assuming it comes back positive then he will also get tested. If he doesn’t have it, then it means it’s been in my system for at least a decade before a first outbreak. I’m struggling with the idea that sex will ever be enjoyable again.

[Kaliyan]

I’m struggling with how long I might have had it in my system too. Been with my partner for six years and I have zero reason to believe he’d cheat. I was with my baby’s father ten years ago. I wouldn’t be surprised if he cheated in the two years we were together. Five years before him I was with someone for three years who also cheated. So in a period of 19 years I’ve been with three people and I’ve never had an outbreak. I’m really struggling. With whether or not it’s even the right diagnosis as it makes no sense in my mind. Just got blood work today to see about confirmation. I’m sorry no one has responded to you before today.

[Kaliyan]

Any updates on how long it lasted? I’m having my first outbreak. Started an at home regimen of vitamins and natural antivirals while waiting to see a doctor, I’m at the end of day three with doctor prescribed anti vitals. End of day 8 from my first “pimple” and it’s as swollen as ever, if not more so than it was 2-3 days ago. I’m sleeping everyday for hours, I’m terrified of where I got it. Either from my current partner of six years unknowingly because he’s never had it before or my ex of ten years ago which has me worried that my son has it in his system now. Sorry it’s long. It just seems to be getting worse, not better.