I was diagnosed just over 6 months ago after a second outbreak in about 6 weeks.
I thought the first outbreak was ringworm or something & quickly put medicine on it that made it never looked like what it was.
The second outbreak I didn’t treat and went to the doctor to confirm (was hoping it was shingles or something else). It wasn’t. I old my doctor I’d been with the same person 2 years and she said I could have gotten it 30 years ago.
A little background – I was a single mother more than 20 years ago and so busy and overwhelmed for so long I gave up on dating at all until a few years ago after my kid started college.
Then I dated a few people, nothing serious,
but kept thinking about the relationship before the one when I got pregnant 20+ years before.
We have a mutual friend and turns out his marriage was over and we rekindled that relationship.
Before we were back together this time we talked on the phone for 6 weeks or so.
Initially. it was just an old friends catching up kind of thing and he told me the only person
In his life he’d really think about dating was a friend of his. He asked, if I knew it was”the one” would I be with someone who had a non-fatal, but incurable disease. I knew what I was referring to and told him he better be sure because he’d never have a chance with a lot of women.. one of them being me.
He dropped the subject and mentioned that friend’s status a few times in other context.
Fast forward almost 2 years to my first outbreak, told him I thought it might be ringworm and he sort of jokingly told me to stay away.
Second outbreak, I told him after medically confirmed and I asked him if he ever had any indication he might have it. He said no.
I was breaking up with him because I didn’t
want him to get it. He said it didn’t matter, he loved me, he might already have it anyway & 25% of people have it, etc.
A few months later, I went out of town with my kid and had lots of time to think and remembered that early conversation about his friend he’d been interested in and became convinced he knew all along and didn’t tell me.
I broke up as soon as I got back & told him why.
He seemed completely stunned & devastated, but said okay.
I was devastated, too, lost my best friend, as well as my boyfriend, etc., and texted him. We started talking and he said he had been tempted be tested & send me the negative result without a word. I felt like a monster & a fool & we got back together.
I have to admit, I think about this often and wonder what the truth is.
He’s generally very forthcoming about things, but I know he has lied to me about less important things.
It’s otherwise a good relationship, not perfect, and I wonder how I’d ever date again anyway.
I wouldn’t want to go out with someone who is negative per I’m at the point in my life where I’m not just dating around & I don’t want to give it to someone else.
I feel like I can’t get perspective on this to see things clearly and there is no one I can or will tell.
Candid thoughts, please.
Topic: Joint pain
I was so sure I had an autoimmune disease because my joints hurt and felt inflamed. All tests came back negative. I was diagnosed 2 years ago with herpes. I had a bad first breakout and then 2 more but only had a couple I sore with those. I can’t go one day without taking valtrex or I get the pins and needles feeling in legs and down below. If I miss a couple days I feel like I’m getting the flu. Anyone else feel this way? I am also taking monolaurnen 3x a day and l-lysine defense 3x a day. Why don’t I feel better!
I am newly diagnosed — it is Tuesday and I read the diagnosis on my medical portal on Sunday night. In shock even though doctor who did the swab of my blisters told me it might be herpes. I just thought it was the oral herpes (which I know I have and this hasn’t given me shame) that got “down there” through oral sex or something. But it is genital herpes. Blisters started after I had COVID in April, which I guess is not uncommon, although I may have had other symptoms for a long time (nerve tingling). Husband has no symptoms. He is supportive. We talked (ok, I cried, and he talked). Given our histories before we got together over 30 years ago, it is likely that I was the one who contracted herpes and was basically without symptoms throughout our whole relationship. I feel ashamed about this and really alone. I can’t talk to anyone about it except my husband and I don’t want to burden him with being a basket case. Thanks for listening
Topic: Herpe outbreak?
Hi everyone I’m newly diagnosed with herpes. Im just trying to figure out my triggers and if I’m having a break out or what could possibly be going on down there?? Any advice
I’ve always been careful with my sexual partners. I also haven’t had many. I started seeing someone and it got serious, quick. We had sex with condoms and eventually stopped using them. I had asked him about testing and he said he was in the clear. I also hadn’t known how many partners and how recently he had had sex. I trusted him. Three months in the relationship I was diagnosed. I was in shock and shut down. He said he didn’t know. I felt beyond betrayed. Eventually I said, “we need to learn how to tell people if we ever break up”. He said, we’re never breaking up. The stress of herpes went away when I realized he was the one. 3 years later we broke up. So hear I am feeling the stress and depression of a breakup with someone I thought I’d marry, along with having a new world of realizing I’m going to have to date with herpes for the first time ever.
Topic: Is it an outbreak?
Hi, I was diagnosed with genital herpes 5 or 6 years ago during my first outbreak. I had one small sore fairly far into my vaginal opening. I haven’t ever had another outbreak. I get paranoid every time I ever feel anything uncomfortable in that area, but as far as I know, I have never had an outbreak. Lucky, I know. However, I don’t really know what it feels like and if I would recognize the symptoms. Recently, I felt some discomfort in the area and had a look. At first, I was sure it was an outbreak by the way it looked (one small white-ish looking spot. not really a blister though). But it was gone in less than 2 days. Is that possible? Sometimes I have tears especially after sex, so I’m not sure if it was just that or if it was an outbreak.
Topic: 25 years old with hsv1
Hello everyone, I’m Soso. I recently been diagnosed with hsv1 and I’ve been very depressed. Although I caught chicken pox in childhood I never knew that it was hsv because no one told me about it. I had my first cold sore ever on Halloween of last year and haven’t had one since (thank god) I have so many questions and concerns that doctors that I’ve been going to have just shrugged off. It’s so depressing to not have anyone to talk to about it because nobody cares. I hope to make friends. I’ve been sitting here going crazy for about a month now and I just want to get to some type of peace.
Questions I have about it is, am I still contagious without the cold sore? Like can I touch my lips. If I’m eating or drinking something and it spills on my body will it transfer that way? If I’m in the shower and the water runs from my lips down my body can it transfer that way as well? Even if I wash my face? If I drool in my sleep do I have to immediately get up to wash my face?
Sorry if it’s alot but that’s literally what’s been running though my mind I’m sitting here washing my self with soap and water if I feel like I got my spit anywhere on my face or body. I’ve even started wearing face masks after reading that your saliva is infected. I’m just going crazy and extremely traumatized and don’t know what to do or what not to and some answers and advice would really help. Thanks❤️
Hi all. I have been recently diagnosed with hsv 2 and i am keen on treating this with natural remedies. I have been doing hours of research since diagnosis and wanted to know of other peoples experience with natural treatments. Whats worked, what hasnt etc.
I have ordered monolaurin and waiting for it to arrive. My lysine arrived yesterday and i have began taking it as a supplement. I also applied some of the powder straight on to the ulcers. It did hurt a bit but i powered through. When i woke it was the most relief i had felt since the begining of the putbreak. Could be coincidence?
Anyway.. please reply with your thoughts and experiences. Thanks so much. This is definitely a lot to process.
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