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[Clara]

Hey there!! Welcome to the group. I was diagnosed with HSV2 back in 2014. I had already been married for 14 years at the time and am pretty sure I did not get it from my husband. He passed away about 18 months ago an until then I really didnt have to worry about it. But, now I want to, hopefully have another fulfilling relationship with someone else. It is very distressing to have this and it does get easier as time goes on. Regardless, one needs to be strong to get passed the guilt and stigma one feels. Every once in a while I slide back into the stigma abyss but generally I am pretty optimistic that I will find someone who will accept me the way I am. I am and so are you, an intelligent, beautiful human being with so much to offer the right person. I have read 3 books on Herpes and I think they have helped me cope. I also have been going to counselling to help me adjust when things get back in my head again. I am 70 years old but I dont feel any older than 35 and I need and want that close affection and love from someone who is accepting.

[Clara]

Thank you for posting this. I had been diagnosed 11 years ago and have within the last 2 years became a widow. I am definitely going to reach out to his website. Thanks again

[Bela]

Hello my friends and sisters,

I have been diagnosed recently, I got it from my first relationship with ever, how hard it can be!!
But still I am doing my best to control it . Because I have never had any sexual partners or experience in these viruses I do have some questions that only you that have it for a longer period than me can help me. Please if you already have been through some years of herpes let me ask you some questions and help me find peace of my mind and my relationship life .

Thank you!

• This topic was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by Bela.

[Bela]

Hello Mariam , thank u for sharing your story.

I am recently diagnosed, I saw your story and that specialist you talked about is a blessing, can you please share the medical treatments or diets that he wrote to you . I am so happy for you and surprised that you spent several years without outbreaks, I am starting my college I want to reach that target please.

Best regards,

• This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by Bela.

[Clara]

Hello my sisters. I already feel like part of the family. I am 70 years old and was diagnosed with 2 back in 2014. I had been married for 13 years at that point. I was horrified of course. Blaming myself and going through all the unhealthy thoughts we have all experienced. My husband was never worried about the diagnosis. I don’t believe he over became infected, at least no symptoms, He passed away almost 2 years ago. Now, I am back dating. I met a very nice fellow and have enjoyed several dates with him over the last 3 months. We both have a strong Christian faith and have not had sexual intercourse up to this point. I do feel our relationship is progressing and it may soon be time to have “The Talk”. I have been reading Dr. Kelly’s book as well as “The Good News About the Bad News” in preparation for this day. I have read conflicting information about kissing and transmission of HSV2. This has me mortified because this relationship involves a lot of kissing. So many articles talk about kissing being one of the means of transmission. Then, I’ve read in other places HSV2 absolutely does not spread from the genitals by kissing. If it is spread by kissing then I probably have infected him. For which I will never forgive myself. Does anyone have any input on this? I’m already concerned about rejection when I tell him about my infection.

[Nerdette]

Hi and I felt the same way when I was diagnosed. I’m glad this forum is here. What works for me is having a licensed therapist. You can find therapists online by going to psychologytoday.com. I tried to enter the whole link but the post didn’t work. Good luck to you and remember, we are here. I am 70 and have been living with herpes since 1989. Try not to despair. We are stronger together!

[mariamfrancis2663]

I think it’s high time I told my story.
So the doctor that diagnosed me of HSV1&2, actually recommended a natural method as a possible remedy for me and actually referred me to a Naturopathic Doctor who is a specialist in herpes. I was pleasantly shocked and grateful that he took that extra step to literally give me all my options and even provide resources. I’ve always hated taking medicine and I’ve been trying to be more aware of what I put into my body. He stated that the specialist had a lot of good information about herbs and natural healing. He spoke very highly of the doctor and claimed that he had worked with him and was very impressed with his research and the results he yielded. So I contacted him and we really discussed at length cos he wasn’t close by. He asked a lot of questions and was very clear that this will only put the virus into a dormant state where I won’t experience any of the herpes symptoms and won’t also pass the virus through sexual intercourse. It’s just like a second chance to live a normal life again. I didn’t really think twice because it looked like the only thing I was at risk of losing is my money and on the bigger scale of things it is definitely one of my lesser concerns, especially when in comparison to my health. So we concluded and he sent me the meds and instructed me on the diet to follow. I did that for 7weeks and that was it.
I have been living my normal life now for over 8years free from outbreaks, pains, sores, I have even been in and out of relationships without passing the virus, hence no need to tell my partners about my HSV if I choose not to.
I finally decided to settle down in my last relationship cos my partner was all I wished for, I later told him about everything which wasn’t an issue to him because after 2years of relationship and we were sexually active, he was still testing negative. Now we have a beautiful daughter. My husband and daughter are not with the virus.
If you haven’t tried or considered natural healing, then I think you should, but not all naturopathic healers can do it, there are specialist amongst them who are very good with herpes.

[greysanatomy2028]

Hello everyone, I was just diagnosed with herpes yesterday. I feel like my whole world is shutting down and I also feel super dirty as well. I’m supposed to start college in a few weeks and I was looking forward to it but now I feel like everything is ruined because of this diagnosis and I don’t know what to do. I also think that no one will ever want to love me now since I have this disease and I feel like they’ll think of me as a dirty slut. I don’t know what to do honestly, I didn’t think this would even happen since I used protection when having sex. I am so lost and I could definitely use some kind words of support.

[Wynne]

I didn’t know much about herpes, as no one I knew had it. I had not ever been tested for it even though I got tested for other STD’s fairly regularly. My doctor said if I never had symptoms or had a partner who had it, I didn’t need to get tested.
About 7 weeks ago some crazy stuff happened at work and they laid off most of my department without warning. There were only three of us left and suddenly we were doing (and still are) the work of all the others who had been let go. The stress was unexpected and heavy. I couldn’t sleep, I ate terrible foods and I cried all the time. I was in front of the computer way too much and didn’t get regular exercise. I broke out in blisters on my genitals. I had no idea what was going on so I Googled it and decided that I better have a herpes test. Just to rule that out, as my boyfriend didn’t have it and I had never known any of my past boyfriends to have it. Well, the blood test was positive. My world changed right then and there. I told my current boyfriend (9 monthsdating) and he thought he must have had it unknowingly and gave it to me. He had a blood test. Well, his test was negative. I asked my doctor how that could be and he said I could have caught it as many as 20 years ago and never had an outbreak until now. I then remembered someone who I dated in 2003 right after I got divorced. I found his prescription for Valtrex in his bathroom and asked him what the hell he was keeping from me. He swore it was for “lip sores”. We broke up soon after, and then I never got any outbreaks after that so I didn’t think I had it. Well, now I know I do, maybe I have had it all this time and didn’t know, and my boyfriend does NOT, so the world has stopped for us. He won’t kiss me, hold my hand, or of course, have sex with me now. I’m on daily Valtrex but he is very scared of catching it. I don’t have a current outbreak but I still feel like I am u unlovable.

[Fallen]

I was just diagnosed a few weeks ago. I am not handling it well I spent decades married to someone who wouldn’t touch me before I had this. When we separated my ex took my home my animals and let me have my clothes. He didnt help with bills in my name and I was granted enough support to barely cover the bills he stuck me with while he kept all the items. We split up I found a relationship with a much younger man who was exciting and handsome. I felt so happy and confident for the first time in my life had sex without protection after we became official. I thought I was happy but he hasn’t turned out to be the person I thought he was. He isn’t very supportive after I tested positive and I find myself incredibly angry it all. Somedays I wish I had never left my ex husband if this is the end result. I have the same sexless existence as before but without my home my animals or any of the things my family gave me. I lost my job because this and have felt so depressed waking up is difficult.

[Sylvia]

Newly diagnosed too around December, but am scaling through. Stay strong, don’t look yourself less and just see it as part of life.

[megan119]

Hi all,
Ever since I was diagnosed with herpes in October, I have been going through terrible breakouts on my face. I can’t tell if it is acne or related to the herpes. Anyone else experience this? I’ve tried everything and it won’t go away. Red bumps all over the bridge of my nose and corners of my nose. I never struggled with acne before, it is so bad!! I have also been going through a huge life change and stress so it could be that but looking for any and all advice. What can I do??

[ForCoils]

I am so sorry. I am newly diagnosed too. Stay strong. I am glad we have this place to communicate.

[ForCoils]

I am newly diagnosed and really struggling. But I am empowering myself by taking legal action against the man who infected me. He lied about being divorced (and many other things) and I worry that if he isn’t called out, he will continue to spread HSV to others. Has anyone here engaged in legal action over this? I welcome any positive or negative feedback you are willing to share.

[Bennie]

Hi –

I received test results last night. Not what I wanted to see!! But…

This does not alter who I am. I am the same person now as I was last week and the week before. I merely have a new obstacle to overcome.

I will not feel shame. I did nothing to deserve this. I chose to have sex and that’s ok. I’m a human being. Reading about this condition awakened a sense that it is all chance. A roll of the dice. Since 80% of people don’t know they have it and it can be transmitted without an obvious outbreak, no one can ever be sure they are safe.

This is a medical condition. It is not a moral judgment of my character. I am not dirty. I am not gross. I am not a slut. I am not less than others without it. It does not define me. But it will give me the opportunity to be a better person.

This will not kill me. It might be painful or annoying. But so are the chronic migraines I’ve been living with for over 20 years. And over these last 20 years, I’ve experienced so many wonderful things. No, life is not over. Rather, a new chapter is beginning and I am intrigued by what it will bring.

The man I’ve been with is a complete dream boat. He’s 6’10”, looks like a GQ model, owns 3 businesses, is a wonderful father, is compassionate, very funny, wicked smart, emotionally available and aware, and has held my hand over the past week as I waited for results. I will tell him the results in the next two hours. I can’t expect him to stay with me and if he does leave, I will have to deal with heartache and the feeling that my dreams slipped through my fingers. But…I can be grateful for the time I’ve had with him.

I can and will forgive the person, who gave this to me. I will come to a peaceful acceptance that allows me to move comfortably in this world. I will not regret. I will not focus on the past.

I will use this experience to remind myself of how strong I am. How fragile health can be. How quickly life can change. How precious our relationships are.

I will dive back into life with full enthusiasm. I will go on. I will be happy. I will be at peace. I just know it.