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In reply to: Trying to deal and stay strong…
Hello, just letting you know I read your message and that sounds really upsetting. I’m sorry that happened to you. I was just diagnosed yesterday and I’ve been in a monogamous marriage for 18 years. Never got this until now. It’s so upsetting, and just incredibly physically painful. The guys definitely don’t suffer as we do. Hope you are feeling better as time goes by.
In reply to: Very newly diagnosed, mixed feelings and disbelief
Hi both, I was just diagnosed yesterday and also in shock and enormous physical pain. I’m glad to know you haven’t had more outbreaks- is there anything you are taking, or doing, medication or otherwise to stay healthy?
In reply to: Newly Diagnosed, Advice Appreciated
Thank you both. I was diagnosed yesterday and like Rae was misdiagnosed initially 8 days ago with a UTI, treated for that, then treated for yeast, then finally properly diagnosed yesterday. I’ve got a huge amount of lesions, bumps, sores, inside and outside. It’s surreal and terrifying. I’m on valycyclovir, lidocaine cream and also picked zinc, echinecea, lysine, tumeric, manuka honey (eating it and applying it)and some OTC herpes ointment. I’m taking hydrocodone and ibuprofen. I got a dr.’s note to be off work for 3 days. I’m just praying something starts working. This is definitely a nightmare, especially reading from others that it didn’t go away for several weeks or about reoccurrence. I’m not feeling very optimistic at the moment, but want to. I’ll see how things progress over the next days.
In reply to: Very newly diagnosed, mixed feelings and disbelief
Hi Stacy, I was diagnosed with genital hsv-1 last June and it was devastating to me. I am also still having a hard time excepting that I have herpes. I am happy to report that I only had that one breakout. I have done alot of research on herpes and HSV-1 prefers to live in the mouth and not the genital area so breakouts are less common. I did find reading Dr. Kelly’s book helpful.
I have only just gotten received my test results 4 days ago which have diagnosed me with HSV-1 (genital herpes). this came as a huge shock to me as I have only had sex one time and this is the consequence in a way i have received for that now in return. I feel in disbelief and like it isn’t reality that i am in fact positive. I still feel like I have so much to process and I’m unsure on how to really feel about it. I go from feeling totally fine to feeling the total opposite and completely negatively affected by it all. I’m fully still in a state of shock and feel like my knowledge on the STI is very limited. I would like to get more answers and all the key facts I need to know and how I move on and live with this now. It’s like my mind can’t come to terms with that I will now live with this for the rest of my life. I have an appointment to talk about my diagnosis and what to do moving forward and I hope that will help. I also just feel alone in all of this even though it has been said to me that this is very common. I hope that this forum will help me feel less alone in all of this. It’s also just like my mind can’t handle this diagnosis and is thinking about 100 things at one time to try and process and accept it.
In reply to: Newly Diagnosed
Hello everyone, just got diagnosed yesterday. I think I have a pretty severe case of genital herpes. It’s shocking as I’m 55 years old and I’ve been married for 18 years, and just got it from my husband. I knew he had oral herpes, no signs of genital. I’m just joining the forum and will be looking for solutions for the unbelievable agonizing pain, and how to heal and how to prevent outbreaks.
Hi guys, I was recently diagnosed with HSV-1 in November 2021. I had a pretty bad first outbreak but got it sorted with meds. However, since then I have had the typical profile sypmtoms a lot and no sign of any blisters/sores. Basically, I get the shooting nerve pain down my legs, tingling down my legs and butt, a lot of vaginal itchiness and lower back pain. A strange thing that happens when I get these symptoms is I get one small red spot that forms on my butt cheek. It’s only one and they look like pimples and don’t blister or itch or hurt. I’m just concerned because why do they appear every time I get these prodome symptoms? Does anyone else get this? Is this a mini-outbreak? Does this mean I’m shedding/contagious all the time? Also, I feel like my nerve pain gets triggered by alcohol, is this common? I’m really nervous because I’m constantly worried if I’m contagious when the nerve pain hits. Or is this all just post-herpatic nerve pain? Will it go away?
In reply to: Any Positive Stories?
I have a similar story to Mimi. I was diagnosed in 2019. I was terrified of telling my partner. We don’t know who brought it to the relationship. I told him to go and get tested. He tried to speak to me all day and I wouldn’t answer his calls. When I finally told him he said that he loved me no matter what. We are still together and going strong.
In reply to: Newly Diagnosed
I was considered newly diagnosed in 2020 during pandemic and I was in a very new and serious relationship at the time. The only upside was that my partner was super supportive during my testing and results and didnt break up with me afterwards. We arent together now, and I did transfer the disease to him. I felt nothing but negativity during the time and still do. I still feel i have been robbed of my old freedoms while trying to date and meet new people but two years later I feel everything has happened for a reason and although coping with this is still hard, I’m glad to say it has gotten easier. Somehow….
Topic: how do i deal with rejection
Hello everyone,
I was diagnosed with HSV-2 back in January. I was on a trip and couldn’t see a doctors for weeks during my first outbreak. It’s been hard because I can’t tell my family about it and my friends try to be supportive but none of them have it so they don’t truly understand and I just feel like I’m talking to a wall because nothing they can say makes me feel better.I’ve had consistent hookups or fwb situations so I’ve never had to go too long without intimacy before this. The guy I had been hooking up with before that tested negative and stopped talking to me after I got diagnosed. Since then I really haven’t been able to hook up with anyone. I use dating apps and before giving someone my number I tell them my status, but then I just get ghosted. I’ve been rejected more in the last three months than ever before, and it’s made my self esteem go down and I don’t feel confident in myself anymore. I am constantly thinking that guys will never pick me because I have nothing to offer them and they easily could find someone else that doesn’t have herpes. I’m stressed that I will never be able to have a semi normal sex life ever again and that nobody will want to have sex with me or ever date me.
If anyone has any advise on how they got back into having sex after getting diagnosed or how to go about the rejections or just any words of encouragement I’d really appreciate it!
Topic: New diagnosis
In reply to: Confused on results
I have no advice , but I’ve ask some questions and no one has answered so I at least wanted to reply..
My gf and I been together 10+ years, we are in our 50s and monogamous
I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago and test reveal that this is a new infection for me, meaning I’m newly infected.. no antibodies
My bf had cold sores as a child but hasn’t had any other symptoms all these years..
But here we are 😩. I’m type 1, but genitally… I don’t get it, and I’m gonna have to have an appointment I guess with my dr just to understand this whole mess… idk if I can pass in genitally, as it’s oral, but down there.. very frustrated and not how I expected to spend my golden years for sure😔Topic: lots of questions
so i was diagnosed a week ago, type 1, genital…
been in monogamous relationship for 10+ years.. both of us…
im 56, menopausal… so sometimes a little saliva is helpful , and weve done this many times! apparently it was a perfect storm, and it was spread to me… i had no ide what it was.. went to urgent care.. no exam.. went to ed dept.. diagnosed with bad yeast infection! i was in so much pain! finally got into my gyno.. and on meds and on the mend i guess…here are my questions if anyone can help…1.my bf had cold sores alot as a kid… is this where it originated?
2. i am type 1.. but got it on my genitals… so am i type 1 or type 2 because of where i got it?
3. could he have had on his privates as well and didnt know, nor did i?
4. how do we ever get back to good in that way again?
5. with being type 1… can i pass sharing a fork or something???
i apprecite any help, im sure there will be lots more questions.. but look forward to understanding this better.
also i have opted to take suppression meds.. at least till i see my dr in august for reg examI had a relationship which ended 12 years ago with a guy who had been diagnosed with herpes. He never had an outbreak in the 2 years we were seeing each other. I never had a single outbreak (and assumed i didnt have herpes) until 2 days after i got the covid vaccine 7 months ago. It was a massive outbreak and lasted about 3 weeks. Since then ive had continous outbreaks approx every 2 weeks. Has anyone else found getting vaccinated triggered an initial/increased outbreaks? If so, does it wear off???
In reply to: Newly Diagnosed
