Topic: Dating with a diagnosis
I’m really struggling to date with herpes. I found out I had herpes 3 years ago and was in a new relationship. I disclosed the news with my boyfriend at the time and we dealt with it. We had plans to spend the rest of our lives together so I never thought I would have to tell anyone I have it. Since we have broken up, over a year ago, I have been actively dating. I have gone about telling men I’m dating in different ways and I’ve found guys who aren’t okay with it and guys who are. But whenever I find a guy who isn’t okay with it it feels like a slap in the face. I understand why they look at it as a dealbreaker because of the negative stigma surrounding it, but it still hurts. I’m feeling very defeated and that I’ll never be in a relationship because no guy will ever accept me for me because I have herpes. When do you think is an appropriate time to tell a guy you are seeing about it? Or what has been helpful when disclosing having herpes to a partner?
So recently I posted on here but being diagnosed with HSV-2 . I just have a question soo when I went to get checked I asked to get checked bc I recently started dating and had a new partner also I’m Always getting BV all the time especially after my period and a surgery I had I’m January . Anyways I asked to get tested for HIV as well and I guess they did herpes (even though I didn’t ask bc I’m experiencing no symptoms ) they called me yesterday and said I had HSV-1 and I have no symptoms at all . A little itching and maybe some Odor but I thought that was from the BV and it is now gone after taking the medicine . I asked the doctor what do I do now and she told me nothing . They can’t give me medicine I might be a symptomatic etc . My question is could it have been a false positive especially due to the fact I didn’t ask for one and I have no symptoms what so ever . And when should I expect symptoms bc every little or tingle has me thinking I’m breaking out . I also got a vaginal exam and my gyno said she seen nothing and when checking for bacteria she just seen the BV and that I should be fine .
So it’s been a couple of weeks since I’ve been diagnosed, and I’m still trying to find ways to heal myself emotionally. For one I know I need to work on not letting my sadness overcome me. Right now I feel like not that many people can relate to how I feel except for the people who have reached out to me on this website. Another thing is my dating life. I feel like it’s over!! I’ve had guys cut me off and I’ve been friend zoned very quickly. It’s making me start to lose hope in everything. I know I need to focus on myself right now and find ways to make myself feel powerful despite my hsv 2. It’s just so hard, I feel like I’m running out of options. Not to mention the dating websites aren’t the best for people who have herpes too. That has made me lose hope too. I am terrified for when the next time a guy takes interest in me and wants to get to know me. I’m scared of the rejection that I have already experienced. I’m scared of never finding a partner and not being able to have kids when I’m older because of the fact that I have hsv 2. I’m just terrified.
So I just went to the doctor a few days about and she confirmed I do have genital herpes. I recently meet a new guy and we’ve been in a relationship for a couple months now. I don’t know, and apparently there’s no way to know whether or not he gave me herpes or if I’ve spread it to him since we first started dating. Can anyone share stories or tips on how to tell someone youre in a new relationship with, you just now recently learned youre infected? I really like him and I’m scared I am going to lose him already.
Hi there. I went to the urgent care today because I had pain while urinating, and assuming it was just a yeast infection, was shocked when the doctor suggested genital herpes. I have gone through every emotion that I’m sure most people on this forum have gone through. I am a “serial monogamist” and thought in doing so I was protecting myself from any sort of sexually transmitted infections. In the past twelve hours, I’ve learned that that’s not the case & am so grateful for the education I’ve received, and am ready to learn more.
Right now my boyfriend is coping differently than I am, and he has a lot of guilt for potentially being who transmitted the virus to me. He’s awaiting his test results as well. I was wondering – who in this forum is still dating/married to the individual they contracted genital herpes from, and what did that process look like? I don’t want to point fingers and I’m reassuring him that this doesn’t change my feelings towards him. Have any of you had feelings of resentment later on?
I haven’t officially received the test results back, but I want to be prepared and ready to have these conversations should it be genital herpes. I appreciate having this forum and already feel a load off my chest – so thank you for listening.
Topic: Breakouts in different areas
I am new to the forum. I am engaged now and when my fiancé and I were in the early stages of dating, he did inform me that he had herpes. He actually got his first outbreak while we were dating. Ever since, he has frequent outbreaks andthey are in different spots of his genital region (sometimes on the shaft or on flat area near groin). I have so far not had any breakouts but I do take Lysine prophylactically! Share your experiences and if any of you happen to get outbreaks in different genital areas each time!
Hi ladies! I never in a million years thought I would be writing this, but here we are. I wanted to share my story and hopefully find some encouragement. I am 21 years old. I have only had 2 sexual partners in my life thus far, one being a six year relationship from middle school-sophomore in college, and the other my most recent 1 year long boyfriend. He has had more sexual partners than me, so if this comes back positive, I assume it’s likely from him and his past partners. However, he has shown 0 symptoms in our one year of dating. We have both come to find Christ since meeting each other, and the stigma around being a Christian with an STI is just too much for me to handle. I developed what I thought was an infected ingrown hair a week ago, and it has progressively gotten worse. The physician I spoke to yesterday suspected herpes. As soon as I heard, the tears started flowing! I am waiting on my swab results to come back in the next few days, but am feeling so exhausted from worry and stress. Thankfully, my boyfriend loves me regardless and this is just a bump in the road of our relationship. But, I can’t help but feel like our sex life in the future (marriage) will never be the same. Help!
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