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Living A Normal Life With Herpes – PopSugar Featuring Dr. Kelly

It’s so exciting when I find new articles about herpes popping up all over the internet, especially when they are found in popular sources such as Glamour, Women’s Health and the Huffington Post. 

It indicates that people are finally talking about herpes and opening up a dialogue. This dirty little secret that no one wanted to talk about years ago is now being brought out of the shadows and into the light.

My years of work within the herpes community has been focused on having women share their story as the first step towards breaking free from the internal shame and pain a diagnosis can cause. Now women all over the world are not only sharing their stories online, they are actively joining in on an even bigger conversation about what it means to have the virus.

I was recently featured in Pop Sugar Fitness’ article, Worried You Can’t Live a Normal Life With Herpes? This Doctor Has Good News In it I shared some facts and dispelled some common myths about the virus. This is just one of the many articles coming out that are slowly chipping away at the social stigma surrounding herpes.

Even though women with herpes can’t be contestants on The Bachelor, it is my vision that this movement of de-stigmatizing herpes will help women break free of the shame and reclaim their health and happiness.

Please check out the article, and write me any questions you may have in the comments below!

Live, Love, Thrive,

Dr. Kelly

 

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Goddess Training with Dr. Kelly- Recap from Dr. Christiane Northrup’s Interview

Goddess Training with Dr. Kelly- Recap from Dr. Christiane Northrup’s Interview

For those that missed the amazing interview I had with Dr. Christiane Northrup, I wanted to recap the video with some highlights, along with some of the things I have learned over the years on taking your sexual power back.

I absolutely loved having this conversation with someone who has influenced me for so long. In our interview, Dr. Northrup shared some powerful stuff!

Watch my recap on:

The power of our Shakti and regaining your Goddess Energy through your chakras. 

How to truly love ourselves

The power of sharing our deepest secrets 

Eliminating shame in your life

Exploring our bodies

 

This is truly a powerful conversation that all women need to hear, especially in this relevant time with the #metoo and women’s empowerment movement. Have more questions? Write me a comment below!

Live, Love, Thrive,

Dr. Kelly

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How To Be A Goddess Training – Dr. Christiane Northrup & Dr. Kelly

Don't miss my interview with Dr. Christiane Northrup, an OB/GYN and one of Oprah's most influential people of 2017! We talked about the power of our Shakti, What NOT to do when pleasuring ourselves, How to love ourselves, How to use tapping to heal SHAME and PAIN, The truth about our clitoris....and SOOO much more.

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How To Be A Goddess Training- Dr. Christiane Northrup & Dr. Kelly

How To Be A Goddess Training- Dr. Kelly Interviews Dr. Christiane Northrup

 

I had the BEST Facebook Live interview last week with Dr. Christiane Northrup, an OB/GYN and one of Oprah’s most influential people of 2017!

We talked about…..

The power of our Shakti 

What NOT to do when pleasuring ourselves

How to love ourselves

How to use tapping to heal SHAME and PAIN

The truth about our clitoris

….and SOOO much more.

You have to check out this Goddess training so that we can end our suffering as women in a male-dominated world. It’s truly a message of empowerment on steroids, and couldn’t come at a more relevant time. 

I urge you to share this video with all of the women in your life!

Live, Love, Thrive,

Dr. Kelly

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Overcoming Herpes Depression with Passion

Herpes depression is a real thing for many women. It can be overwhelming and leave women feeling all alone.

It’s not that you don’t have enough Zoloft running through your veins, it’s just that you are believing your thoughts about what it means to have herpes.

Most of you are thinking that…

No one will ever love me OR

My symptoms will NEVER get under control OR

People are going to think of me differently.

While these are all common thoughts, they do not need to be your TRUTH.

The truth is that you CAN overcome these thoughts about this diagnosis and rediscover hope, healing, and happiness.

If you are tired of feeling depressed…here is what you need to do.

You need to get out of your head and back into your heart!

While you probably haven’t felt like doing the things you love to do and are passionate about….I’m here to kick your butt and tell you that it is time to return to your passions, even if it is just for 30 minutes.

Here is a quick video from me to you from the beautiful mountains of Colorado. I wanted to send it to you yesterday, but I guess it was meant to happen today.

You know why? I just found out that Warren Miller, a ski movie icon, at 93 years old died today. He created a whole industry and lifestyle around his number one passion, skiing. I was introduced to him and his ski movies at the age of 8. Here is a video that I dedicate to him. May you rediscover your passions and not give up on happiness!

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Overcome Procrastination With Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule

 

I recently discovered Mel Robbins inadvertently looking for a podcast to teach me new ways of helping women overcome anxiety. Mel is a best-selling author and expert on leadership and defeating doubt, and is known for her Tedx Talk on the 5 Second Rule. For procrastinators, this rule can mean a complete change for your life, work, and everyday confidence. Simply put, if you have an impulse or desire to do something, you must physically move within 5 seconds to act on that goal.

I started listening to the podcast and found it extremely powerful. A week later now after having done my first 5 Second Rule, I am using it ALL the time. If you are struggling with taking action in your life, this could be an amazing life change. Why not use it as your New Year’s Resolution?

A New Year, A New You!

 

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Hope After Herpes: Say Yes To The Dress

Hope After Herpes: Say Yes To The Dress

As a doctor, transformational coach, and 20-year carrier of the herpes virus, I have the unique opportunity of openly talking about the emotional pain and stigma that a herpes diagnosis brings.

I start all my coaching calls with a quick meditation, to center my clients and to have them receive a glimpse of peace and tranquility. After they become more conscious of their breath and their thoughts slow down a bit, I ask them to tell me their story about living with herpes.

For many women, this is their first opportunity to disclose their deep, dark secret of herpes and with it often comes tears and despair. I sit quietly as they share and open their hearts to a stranger, whom they know will not judge them. I too had to tell my story for the first time when I was 23 years old and I remember how painful and humbling that story was.

After they are able to share their whole story from past to present, I tell them that we are going to take some time to look into their future. I ask them to “wave a realistic magic wand and tell me what it is that they want to create in the next 6 months to a year in terms of health and romance.”  

It is at this very point when the phone line often goes silent and their voice quivers, their breath becomes choppy again and tears start pouring down their faces. Many women are nearly speechless at this point because the thought of their future seems bleak. 

They start by sharing everything that they DON’T WANT, like the…

–SHAME of herpes
-feeling DIRTY or DAMAGED or
-constantly thinking about the symptoms of herpes 

And then I ask again with a loving voice and an open heart, I ask…if that is what you don’t want, what do you want?

It is so hard for them to answer this question about their future, for many of them have absolutely given up hope.

With some guidance, I ask them if I were to have asked them before their diagnosis, what would they say. Many then say that they actually want a loving relationship and partnership. They want open communication, a companion, someone to love them and someone to share their lives with. Many also would love to start a family and have happy and healthy children.

With some coercing, if they are single, I ask….if you could, would you want to get married someday? And then the truth comes out….

YES

They would love to say Yes To The Dress

and yet the fear of rejection, isolation, feeling dirty and shameful or fearing that their secret might get out there stops them dead in their tracks.

The antidote?

HOPE

That is what I often serve on my first conversation with women with herpes.

Hope, Healing, and Happiness are still available for any woman with herpes.

While you might not want to get married, herpes should not keep you from living out your dreams of vibrant health, love, and partnership.

I forget who said…”Without a vision people perish” and yet I know it is true.

Wherever you are on your journey with herpes, I am here to tell you that it is time to start dreaming again. 

Start by asking yourself these questions
1. What do I want?
2. What would I need to believe to create this in my life?
3. What actions would I need to take?

It all starts with a little bit of hope and a vision for what you really want. 

I was diagnosed with genital herpes at 23 years old and I thought my life was ruined. I am here today to tell you that I am living the life of my dreams, happily married and raising an amazing little girl. 

I would never have thought this could be a reality. 

If you are a woman with herpes in despair, start dreaming again and then take one action today in the direction of your dreams.

Reach out and get the support you need. 

There is no cure but community.

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How Volunteering Can Help Heal Your Herpes- Sheila’s Story

How Volunteering Can Help Heal Your Herpes Suffering-
Sheila’s Story

Today I want to share with you Sheila’s story. Shelia has been a woman who I have worked with in the past with Habitat for Humanity and she really exemplifies two different things. First off, she exemplifies vulnerability.  I asked her to share her story of how working with a non-profit and volunteering pulled her out of a great deal of shame and pain around her herpes diagnosis as well as some extremely challenging personal times in her life. The second thing that we can learn from her story is that when we are suffering, it’s important to get out of your own head.  If you are able to focus on other people and focus on their needs, healing can really start from the inside, out. Volunteering is a great way to feel better about yourself and also make a great impact on the community. I encourage you to read her full story below!

What Volunteering at Habitat for Humanity has meant in my life.

Hi my name is Sheila and this is the story of how volunteering with Habitat for Humanity has helped me to make changes in my life. So first some background on myself. I have been through what I call the Decade from HELL. Seems it all started in 2006 for me. It is now 2017 and it has been a REALLY LONG road of LOSS and change in my life. However, not all of it was BAD. I had many good things happen also. Nevertheless, the roller coaster ride has forever changed me. As I look back now I am amazed that I pulled myself through so much. A few key turning points made my road to where I am currently at a lot better and it began with Volunteering.

As my therapist has told me many times, I have gone through more in a short time frame then most people go through over the entire course of their lives. That is a very true statement for me. Some of the highlights (as I call them now) from my decade from Hell have been the following. I have suffered through 10 deaths in 11 years and it has been one Major grief session after another. Six of which have been family…..including my Mom, Grandmother and Father (all 3 within a year and half). Grief is a tricky bastard to deal with and I cannot seem to get away from it.  In addition, I purchased my condo/home and moved out alone for the first time in my life.

I have also been out of work 4 times totaling almost 3 years living on savings and Unemployment and PT retail jobs in between. Because of this I had to work with my mortgage company twice to save my house, this last one (2016) came excessively close to that happening. The sad part about being out of work so much was the 3 years I also spent back in College for a Dual Master’s Degree so my company could promote me. However, I was “laid off” after 8years shortly after graduating and have had bad luck in the last 7 years with finding Permanent employment. That has led to lots of Contract work and NOT working. I have become a Master at getting through tough times, financially at least; the emotional toll is still a work in progress.

In between all this happening, I of course started to change and that lead to losing some very close friends in my life. There has also just been a rash of bad luck in the dating world therefore I have never gotten married or had any kids (even though I wanted that). What killed me the most was losing my BFF of 18 years because her new husband never liked me. With that, I also lost being an Aunt to a great little boy that was the LOVE of my life. And my person to talk to about anything in life.

I have also gained a LOT of weight and my self-confidence took hits all over the place. Both physically and emotionally with personal and professional sectors. Not to mention the host of health issues that I have been faced with, including daily chronic back pain due to a bulging disc and now Herpes not to mention the mid to late 40’s hormonal changes.

I do not remember the younger version of me that started this journey 11 years ago now. However, today I see a very strong woman that somehow got through it all. I have lost a lot but have gained a lot as well. I have a few amazing women friends that have seen me through all of this and have stayed by my side. I LOVE them all dearly but one day I realized that I needed something else in my life. The dating scene has just been tough for me, I just do not have great luck and when I do meet the right guy, it seems to always be the wrong time for him. So I was bored with online dating, back to work after a 16 month unemployment and realizing that while I loved my girlfriends, we all didn’t really have a lot in common as far as interest in what we did together.  I would hang out with them to get out of the house, but they never seemed to want to do things I wanted.

I knew I needed something to change but was not sure how to begin and what exactly I needed to change. So somewhere in the middle of my life being a Complete MESS (4 years ago), I heard yet another news segment on The Jimmy Carter Build with Habitat for Humanity in Denver and how that was wrapping up and ending. I realized that I had missed a chance to DO SOMETHING GOOD and work side by side with our former president of the US, I felt sad but that spurred me into action. I just had started another job and waited until I was adjusted there. However, the ONLY way I knew how to make a change in my life at that point was this volunteering opportunity with Habitat for Humanity. I had always been intrigued in this organization and had the thought of “What kind of Guys can I meet at a construction site”, was a thought at first. Then after checking out the site online and signed up to check it out. 

May 3rd, 2014 I woke up and got ready to go to my very first day volunteering at Habitat for Humanity…

Read The Rest Of Sheilas’s Amazing Story Here

 

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Dr. Kelly’s response to Usher’s Herpes Scandal

Dr. Kelly’s response to Usher’s Herpes Scandal

An hour before the moon eclipsed the sun, I found myself listening to a live podcast of a reverend sharing how the solar eclipse “called on the shadow side of humanity to step up.”

After hearing this, I decided to step up and share on Facebook live; in order to bring light and understanding to the more recent Usher herpes scandal.

The shadow side of a genital herpes diagnosis leaves women feeling unworthy of love, shameful, dirty, damaged and all alone. It can plummet a woman’s self-esteem and self-confidence, leaving many depressed and even suicidal.

While this diagnosis is common, very few people are talking about it, unless of course, you follow the pop star, Usher, and the herpes scandal.

If you haven’t heard about it, Usher is being sued for non-disclosure of his herpes status to 3 women and 1 man that he allegedly slept with. In the state of California, it is illegal to expose a partner without disclosing one’s herpes status.

It is my mission in life to bring hope, healing and happiness to people with herpes.

While the Usher herpes scandal has brought up fear in those with herpes, I perceive it as a beautiful opportunity to educate the world about herpes and increase acceptance of this often unfairly stigmatized and common diagnosis.

Pink Tent™ is dedicated and poised to do just that.

It is a safe haven for Women Supporting Women with Herpes. We have a women’s only online forum, Secrets To Success course, coaching and other resources.

For most, genital herpes is just a skin rash and it doesn’t cause anything else!

When it comes to intimacy, I do agree that we should always disclose, but what about the majority of people who don’t know they have it? How can we protect ourselves even when we do disclose, if a great partnership goes bad and it becomes one person’s word against another? What other problems and myths does this Usher story bring to the light?

Listen in on this live Facebook conversation as I share the truth about herpes and how I can help you or your partner, friend, or daughter who is struggling.

For a limited time, I am offering a special on my new edition of Live, Love, and Thrive with Herpes. Listen in to learn more and receive your coupon code.

Live. Love. Thrive.
Dr. Kelly

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Embracing Vulnerability & Living An Authentic Life

Dr. Kelly Interviews Maryalicia Verdecchia – Pink Tent™

As Brene Brown teaches, vulnerability is our greatest asset. Ever since I heard her share this poignant message to the world in her Ted Talk that went viral, I have explored it, embraced it and shared it. While these waters of vulnerability place us in a state of great uncertainty, there is hope, light and connection found in the depths of this truth.

When I met Maryalicia just a few weeks ago, I witnessed a woman who embodies this vulnerability. I met her at a social media event in Denver and I was immediately struck by her candidness and outgoing personality. We had an instant connection.

Now that I look back, I realize why. She was totally open and vulnerable with me when I shared with her what I was doing with Pink Tent™ to give women with herpes hope, happiness and healing. With her training as a CNA, she was well versed on the subject. In short order, we were talking about how isolating and shame ridden other medical conditions can be too. From this shame, she told me about how a mental health campaign called “A Day Without Shame” was born.

In this interview, Maryalicia shares all from her diagnosis of bipolar to the tragedies she has endured in life.

We are not alone in this shame ridden culture and Maryalicia teaches us how to overcome our fears of being judged and open up to living an authentic life where we can learn how to truly love ourselves.

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About Maryalicia

Maryalicia is a Strategic Talent Acquisitions Leader, Savvy Social Media Advocate, Branding, Onboarding & Employment Engagement Specialist, who also has her CNA w/QMAP. People describe her as professional, positive, influential, social, energetic, authentic, compassionate, inspiring, loyal, reliable and talkative. Over the years, Maryalicia has constantly sought to improve herself (while remaining true to herself) in order to be successful in work and personal life.

You would not know it meeting her that she has been diagnosed during with ADHD, Major Depression, and Bi-Polar 2, and fought slut-shaming. Although she bowed to the stigma of the labels at first,  she now realizes that these ‘label’s help define who she is, and help her to understand herself better, AND DO NOT define her.

Due to the shaming of her confidence, personality, and high sex drive, Maryalicia became fascinated by deviancy, and how societies defined this term, especially when it created social stigmas. She graduated with a BA in Sociology, and has continued to keep up on the latest information on social stigmas and how they affect our lives. She is here today to talk about some of her experiences, ways to combat stigma, and let you know about National Day without Stigma on October 9th, 2017.